[kydz_7]

I got placement of a beautiful 2 day old baby yesterday My questions is....who will be most likely to be the adoptive resource. 2 of her half siblings were TPR'd and living with their adoptive family in a different part of the state. They are interested in the new baby, HS called them yesterday to put them aware...but they can't take placement of her for quite some time because the father is going to try for reunification which seems doubtful but still allowed the process. If my little honey is available for adoption ~ will the "half" siblings family get "first dibs" as her adoption resource or us, her current foster family? I know the state pushes the togetherness of siblings but does this hold true even for "half" siblings that live far away from the county we are in....Please let me know what you might know She could very well be with us the next 6-12 months.

[vegaschristina]

What happens in Nevada is that any children coming into care will create an immediate call to my family, because I have the siblings. Only if I choose not to take the child in would they seek another foster family for the child.

[kydz_7]

well HS couldnt place her with the half sibs adoptive family because dad is showing an interest and will be given a reunification to try...moving her 200 miles away does not support the reunification process...so for them to have placement of her is not an option at this point.

[momof9wantingmore]

In our case my AD bio baby sister can't come live with us yet as we live in another state and the court has not yet decided whether to grant biomom reunification services, in the state she is in they place the baby in a foster only home, in our case the baby is with an older couple who takes babies until they are reunited or adopted, these people are very nice (we have met them) and provide a loving home while the infants are waiting for permanency, they say they are like grandparents. This system seems to work well, with much less chance of the broken hearts that sometimes go along with foster parenting.

[stevenstwin]

I guess it might depend on how long the process drags on - if she stays with you for many, many months while dad works his plan, they may decide se has a significant bond with you. BUT...be careful about letting yourself hope for that, because I think the chances are still pretty high they would want her with her siblings, even IF she was with you for a while.

[Withay]

I have a 12 mo old fs whom I brought home from the hospital at 11 days (he was in the NICU). As soon as TPR happens he will be moved to another state to join his 1/2 brother in his adoptive home.

I have to tell you that, even though I am the only 'mommy' this precious little boy has ever known and I love him to pieces I will not fight to keep him. He needs to be with his 'family'.

In my opinion, and this is just MY opinion, a child needs to be with the siblings if at all possible. The exception to this, again in MY opinion, is when none of the siblings are aware that this child (who has been in one foster home for more than 9 months - since birth) exists. In that case, I believe that it COULD do more harm to the child to be moved. Especially if the foster family and the siblings adoptive family agree to establish a relationship between the children.

Again, all of this is just MY opinion. I do not presume to speak for anyone else.

[Happy123]

I believe that they will place w/ the siblings. He may be only a half sibling, but there still is that connection.
Enjoy the baby while you can...no matter how short a time it could be or how long it could be.
Happy123

[kxl164]

Here is would depend on visits. If the family of the siblings is serious about wanting the baby they will need to set up visitation so that the children can bond and they can bond with both the baby and get to know you. Or, if they actively call the SW for updates and infomation and such then that could count for them too. If TPR happens they would probably have the baby placed with them.

They would have to show from the beginning that they were interested in taking the baby and maintiaing sibling bonds.

If they say maybe at the beginning, but then do nothing until TPR, the odds go down that they would have the baby placed with them. Judges here do not like that, that doesn't mean it wouldn't happen, just that it would be less likely.

That bond is important here, but usually only if there is a pre-existing or built relationship (since you can't have a pre-existing relationship with a newborn). But if the adoptive parents do not extend their family to build that bond, then it matters less. Just remember, it not just about visits, there could be no visits but frequent phone calls and that means the same thing here.

There are no easy answers, but getting to know the family is usually the best option. Either you will feel better about knowing the siblings and where the baby may end up, or they will feel better that the baby is well taken care of with you and may just want to continue contact. You never know.

Good Luck with the little one!

[Becki_in_IN]

Well, I can tell you what has happened here. We adopted our eldest. They called us 4 months later to tell us that her half sister was now in care. We took her and adopted her as well. A couple of years later another half sibling came into care. They did not call us or the other family that has another half sibling. Both of us would have taken this child. Her foster family ended up adopting her. We have never seen her and barring a major miracle probably never will. Last May we got a call that there was a little half brother. We took him as well. In IN siblings are suppose to have the priority, but obviously that was not the case with Katlie. My girls grieve not knowing her and so do I.

So I guess it depends on your state law and whatever floats the boat of the caseworker at the time.

[naca]

I agree with Becki- it all depends on the state policy & how likely your caseworker/county is to hold up the policy.

We are in the process of awaiting TPR on my AD's full sibling (in another state) and then hope to have her moved here. The other state seems very hopeful that this will happen & are thrilled to have heard from us.

Then we have the same AD's 1/2sibling (4mo) who was born in the same county that my AD was in - they placed him elsewhere and although I've went up the chain of command, I haven't had any luck on getting him moved to us..

Lastly we have our FS (ironically same county as AD & AD's 1/2sib)- he has a newborn sibling who recently came into care and WILL be placed with us once we are home from vacation..

[jllambert]

We are waiting TPR on our baby girl and the CW has already told us that if mom has another (they feel strongly that she will since ours is baby #7) we would be the first home they try to place that baby in! We would of course take the baby! $ of the oldest kids are with a great grandmother who has refused any more of her granddaughters kids. The other two are with a cousin of the bio-dad and because of the medical needs they have they will not take anymore. We do however have a relationship with that family and the siblings, and they are in full support of us having this child and any other children this woman gives birth to! Great Grandma lives far away so we do not see them, but would be open to it if they wanted to see their little sister! We send pictures through the case worker to them!
Good Luck to you!

[MomwithFive]

It seems that it is different everywhere. Our daughters siblings are all in different homes. We were never asked to take the younger sibling and I believe it all came down to the individual bonds with each family vs. sibling bond as there really wasn't one yet.