[HthrRenee]

I let the girls' caseworker know that she has my permission to give my email address to the relative who has asked for the twins. She responded absolutely not. Do you think she will allow correspondence between the relative and me later on in the homestudy process? She may have felt I would try to use the direct contact to plead my case to keep them, but I would never do that. I feel that is a decision the relative needs to make on her own. Of course, it would be easier if she knew they are in a loving home. I was thinking more along the lines of being able to keep her updated on the girls as they are growing and changing so fast right now. Whether they are moved to her home or not, I'm sure she would love to know that one of them started crawling yesterday and that they both sit up all by themselves. I know I'm proud of their accomplishments and tell everyone I know.

[Lumpkin]

WOW. Now during the very first class for being certified to be a foster/adopt parent in our sate, they reiterate "Communication.. communication.. communication" ... I wonder how you're going to communicate if they close the lines of communication off for you?

[tvs4]

well... maybe the CW has more info on the family than she is letting on... like maybe they won't be approved and she doesn't want you to talk to her because she is worried the family will bother you? just an idea. To me, it sounds like something is not quite right.

I think if they decided the children do go to the aunt at that point I don't see why they wouldn't allow some contact.

[hkolln]

Can you send a letter to the CW and she forward to the relative instead? That way you are anonymous and you can communicate that way....

We asked to speak to the foster family and what the CW in Idaho did was gave the foster family our phone number to call us instead of giving us theirs (confidentiality)...but once we spoke on the phone they gave us all their contact info so we could keep in touch.