[jeavesmom]

MY kiddos have thier 1st visit with Bio mom in 3 months ,she has been in jail!
Their aunt Fathers sister does the supervision of vists ,we do not feel this is right because Biodad id still out doing drugs and such abd how do we know that his sister will not have him there for a visit also (he is not allowed to see kids)
Biomom has her first visit in 3 months ,it is driving me crazy ,the kiddos do not even know her.How do I get through it and can we voice our concerns about the viists?

[mrstkg1]

In my experience, you don't have any say in who supervises the visits, unless they are allowing bad behavior or acting up in some way. The 3rd party supervisor, does not have to have a relationship with the child, at least not from what I've been dealing with. Especially since this is their bio-aunt, there is probably nothing you can do. I can tell you that your CW is probably grateful that this person is willing to do this, because it takes something off their plate. I know how frustrating this is, but I wouldn't make a fuss about this, voicing your concerns is okay, though, just don't expect anything to change. Take care, try to do something for yourself while their on visits, I have been there a dozen times, and I understand how upsetting this kind of thing is.

[stevenstwin]

Do you have reason based on her own behaviour to not trust this woman, or are you just figuring "guity by association"? If you wanted to kick up a big stink about inappropriate supervision you CAN and might be able to convince the SW to change it, but I would ONLY do that if you have real cause to...not just because the supervisor is related to the bio parent. As we know there are lots of good people with screwed up siblings, and many of them end up involved in a positive way in the lives of the children.

[ranoutofnames]

If you drop off and pick up the child you could sit and watch to see if bdad shows up at any point, if you don't see him in the house.

When A3 was having visits with her bparents they wouldn't show up when the agency was supervising, only if I or the maternal aunt were supervising. I did raise a stink with the DA. I let the DA know the agency wasn't supervising any of the visits and were letting the bparents get away with skipping agency visit days and yet have the other days.

My reason for making a stink was because the maternal aunt and I have a connection to A3 and her parents. At the time it appeared the case would likely move toward TPR. I did NOT want the maternal aunt (who's close to her sister, A3's mom) to be put on the stand and I didn't want to be put on the stand either. I felt it was a conflict of interest and was NOT in A3's best interest for us to be the ONLY people supervising and providing testimony as I was also the adoptive resource.

The DA forced the agency to change who was supervising the visit.

Sometimes I regret that decision. We ended up with someone supervising who was HORRIBLE. The visit went from a teaching opportunity to a person who was inadequate to supervise and they provided no parenting skill assistance.

... it was in A3's best interest to change who supervised if she was going to TPR as it appeared at the time. Now that it's going to RU it isn't such a good thing.