[pandatj]

So, if you read my post about supervising visits, here is the outcome, thus far.

Brought baby to visit. Bmom was soo rude. He got her a present for Mother's day and she didnt even look at it. She instantly talked about changing his clothes. (not to me, ignored me completely)

Now, this mom and I have been fairly decent- for 5-6mo. I take her to breakfast and we visit her church on sundays, to keep the kiddos connected to their community. etc.

This Bmom treated me like I was living scum today.

I assume it is because I do not want to supervise the visits anymore, because it puts me in a bad position. But, how can I tell her that. Because she has now threatened me, other Fmom, SW and Supervisors, they have cut all contact... This is concerning, because we like to keep fairly open lines so when reunification does happen, we can help and still be apart of the babies lives. (When it is in their best interest..Not to mention it rips our hearts every time they go home.)

Thoughts? I am not trying to over think this... But cant we all just get along? She was very deffensive today. She was rude. She was rough. Think maybe she is using again???

Look forward to hearing from you.

[KelleyF]

I think you should just keep on doing what you've been doing and try not to let her attitude ruin what you've done so far. (which to me, is above and beyond the call of duty).
Wait and see how the next meeting goes, maybe she's just having a bad day and things have happened to her that you're not aware of. If it continues, then stop with the open contact for a while. Let her realize she had a good thing with you, and maybe she'll be a little nicer next time.
Here in RI, we don't do open contact with the bio's. Mostly
contact by letters and an occasional phone call, but that is totally optional for the foster family. I do letters only.

[Sam-N-Tony]

She's probably not using, but just miffed at the situation. Ticked off that you don't want to supervise and afraid you said something bad about the visit.

Be the bigger person and just ignore her attitude. Show her that it doesn't bother you. I know when I go to court, bio's are there and are constantly making comments about me trying to steal their kids, stealing money from the government, you know that kind of stuff. I just ignore it, I'm not going to sink to their level.

[pandatj]

Sounds good guys!!! I will do all of that... Yeah, we do not normally talk with Bios either. However, the CPS SW that started the case gave Mom my cell. She lost her entire family when she was 11 and grew up on the streets... No body to talk to. CPS was "certain" that he would go home with in a few weeks... 6 months later... Here we are. And we are on concurrent plan to adopt. We just dont want to get hurt like the last time.

Thanks!!!