[greenrobin]

Bubba peed on me. He was in the shower and I was washing his hair. It had been an edgy day. Then out of the blue he peed on my leg. I was so angry that I just left him there with shampoo in his hair. My dh went in and finished his shower and yelled at him and put him to bed, no story, no song, no nothing.

Sissy saw the whole thing. She then started growling and demanding. I told her to sit quietly in the rocking chair until I got back from taking off my peed on pants. She followed me and dh told her to go back in. She stomped and growled and demanded. She went to bed too, no story, no song, no nothing.

Both kids are currently lying in their respective rooms crying. I had a short cry in my room too.

What is going on? We'd been making so much progress, now we're back to almost where we were in the beginning!

[Howdy]

Wouldn't peeing on you be a sign of repressed anger? Has he had any abuse in the past that occurred in the shower? Maybe he had a bit of a flashback? I remember my daughter once being angry with me for something "I" had done when she was younger, and I had to remind her that I was not her mother then. It sure would be nice if kids could explain themselves, but my daughter sure isn't very good at it, not until after the fact, then she might explain, once she figures it out for herself.

[sayoko7]

Keep strong!!! Set backs could be anything from low blood sugar, tiredness, you name it. It could also be testing the limits. They might be pushing to see if there is any possible thing they could do that would end in rejection. You'll get through it.

[greenrobin]

Thanks, guys.

I usually don't take things he does so personally, but this one really got to me.

He's not seen his biomom and grandparents for nearly 2 months and has recently been talking about her non-stop. They've been here 7 1/2 months and it's been feeling like when they first arrived. We're going to court in June and DFPS is going to try for TPR then. The kids don't know, but I think they feel something. They're little, not stupid.

I've had some sleep, so I'm feeling a little better. I'm going to put on my Scarlett O'Hara act and tell myself that tomorrow is another day!

[AmahMama]

Just a complete stab in the dark here - has he heard anyone talking about court in June - could he be thinking that he is going to have to move - so he is working on "rejecting you before you 'reject' him"? I know that many times kids hear us talking about things that they don't understand - but don't know what questions to ask - or if they really want the answers when they overhear some or parts of things.

If he heard something - or feels like something is up - maybe that's why he is talking about her so much. He may be getting tuned up for another rejection.... You never, never know what is going thru these kids heads......

Good luck.

[greenrobin]

I'm sure he has heard--we've talked to him about court in June. He'll be 5 in September and is extremely aware. He's requesting to talk to the judge himself! The cws are looking at getting him an audience before the court date.

His current thing is, "When I go live with Barbie, then..." No, Barbie is not her name, but he calls her by her first name. We're not at the point where we can tell him he's not going back to Barbie. All we can say is well, the judge said.....

This morning I asked him about peeing on me. He said he didn't know why he did it. I told him that in the future, he needed to pee down the hole in the tub instead of on my leg. Or, better yet, use the potty before getting in. He's been very affectionate today.

We went to a Chinese restaurant for lunch. Surprisingly, every fortune cookie talked about peeing on someone. Wise man never pees on his mom. When showering, pee first. Peeing on the woman who loves you is not a good idea. I'm glad we went there!

[ranoutofnames]

When my brother and male cousin were around 4-5yrs old (it's been a long time so I don't recall their exact ages) they started thinking trying to pee on each other while playing outside was funny. I'll never forget my mother getting so mad at them she swatted them both and they ended up in so much trouble.

Just a couple weeks ago my best friend said her two son's (ages almost 4 and 6) got caught peeing on each other in the bath tub.

I also seem to recall my husband telling me that in high school there were pissing contests in the boy's locker room showers.

Not to say his peeing on you is something us females would find "normal" but I do think it is a somewhat normal thing some young males do. It could be anxiety over something around TPR or other issues... or it could be a boy just being a boy.

Sometimes I think children do things that in their mind they thought was funny at the time that us adults just don't see the humor in it and once the child finds out we don't find it funny they forget why they once thought it was funny. At his age, bodily functions (peeing, pooping, farting, belching) are funny... us adults find them offensive and many require an apology.

By the way... I'm so sorry he did that to you. I'd have been very upset too.

[rachelandbrad]

When my hubby was little his cousin was sitting on his sister and wouldn't get off, he knew he couldn't hit her so he decided to pee on her instead. It worked.

Rachel

[shycar]

I was also thinking on the line of it being normal. I remeber my brother one day decided to pee on me. I was so mad i wacked a good one on him. My mom was furiouse. Then he went through a period that he thought it was fun to pee outside. My hubby told me that he also used to have peeing contest when he was little. My son was going through a faze of peeing in the bath tub (gross I was so mad), after me yelling and he have to clean it up he stoped, but he use to think it was funny. He might have peed on you thinking it was funny and realized by your reaction that it was not that funny.

[Yash]

Guys, don't tell me this. I have a 3-year-old son. UGH!!!