[timleenettesue]

We have found out within the last week that all three of our current foster children will be going up for adoption. One is a sibling to the little guy we already adopted, so why not keep her? The other two have been here for over a year and are brother and sister, can't imagine them leaving now.

The problem is everyone thinks I'm crazy, even my husband. I am so excited and yet so depressed at the same time. My husband says if we keep them all he wants me to stop doing foster care, I love helping the kids. I feel God has a plan and I am trying to stay strong.

All the parents have signed off within the last month. We were really expecting the bp to fight for the brother and sister, because they have been up until now. It just seems like so much so fast. I think all the children will be eligible for subsidies, so money won't be an issue. The stress is really getting to me. Any thoughts?, and sorry for rambling.

[FullQuiverMamma]

So unexpected and so wonderful! God has blessed you richly!!!! I pray something like that happens for our family. I would love to have a big happy home full of adopted *and* bio children.

fqm

[bethy724]

Congrats on the upcoming adoptions!!! Your not crazy for wanting to help children - it IS a calling. I was overwhelmed after my foster sons adoption (LONG 2 1/2 year fight) everybody wanted me to stop fostering. I know my strenghts & weaknesses & started providing respite care on the weekends. Maybe providing respite care for a little while will fulfill your calling & not take away from you family which is your first priority. Providing respite care keeps you in touch w/ fellow fp's & you can keep your lisence (& still do all the training...err)

Good luck you can keep loving & helping children it's always a good idea to slow down when needed.

[momofbgtwins]

I would feel the same way and want to adopt all of them. I do believe you will figure this all out.

[Mummy_Big_Bird]

I don't know if you have it in your area, but we have "hot line" houses here. Maybe that could be something you can do, so you can keep helping children.

A hot line house is a home that can be called during non office hours. They take in a child until the office opens again, and can find a long term foster home for them. So you may get called at night, or the weekends. These are kids they have to pull from homes right away. (ie. found in a drug raid or were in the emergency room)

I know someone who does hotline, and she says she has been called at 3 AM to take a child!

[timleenettesue]

I'm not sure if we have hot lines houses here or not. But it does sound like something I would love to do. Middle of the night doesn't bother me at all.

The more I pray about everything that is going on the more my heart just says slow down. Take everything as it comes and don't worry so much about way down the road. I think my husband may just need some time to adjust, I know it has been overwelming for me and he is a guy (have to solve all problems right now).

Thanks for listening! Any other ideas would be great. Thanks for all the support.

[momofbgtwins]

Here it is called Emergency placement. They are supposed to find a permanent placement for the child within 3 months. There are cases when they do stay in your home a little longer.

[blubutterflies03]

hi-

i may be in your shoes one day. We have 3 biol. children (all legal ages), 1 adopted thru foster (grown and gone) and a 2 yr older adopted thru private adoption. We have 3 current placements and maybe one day they will come up for adoption. Would we adopt them and become parents of 8??? yes!

The other day I took my 2yr older to get shots. The lady at the clinic said how many kids you have, I said 8. She said how old? I said between 2mths old to 24 years old. She offered me condems! haha. I had to explain.

good luck with your choice!

[timleenettesue]

blubutterflies
Thank you soooo much for that story. Humor always helps stress, and that was great. Hope you don't mind if I share that story with the ladies at church.

My husband hasn't said anything more about not doing foster care if we adopt all the kids. I really hope he changes his mind. I may be crazy, but I don't think it is God's plan for our house to ever be empty.