[MBelt8402]

I am so confused, upset, mad, happy.

All mom had to do was show up at court. She no showed. This poor child has been put through so much. We finally had him understanding that he was moving home tonight, and now I have to explain to him what is going on, and I don't even know or understand. I am happy I get to keep him for now, but so mad she keeps doing these things.

[jackiesbooks]

I learned early on from my first placement that I do not discuss court or timeframes to children. To many times have the court gone the opposite of what was planned. Then you have to explained to the child.

[Kat-L]

Originally Posted by MBelt8402

I am so confused, upset, mad, happy.

All mom had to do was show up at court. She no showed. This poor child has been put through so much. We finally had him understanding that he was moving home tonight, and now I have to explain to him what is going on, and I don't even know or understand. I am happy I get to keep him for now, but so mad she keeps doing these things.

I spent all of December getting ready to say goodbye to my foster son who was scheduled to r/u in early January. Well, in a matter of 48 hours, Mom managed to undo all her hard work and lost everything (including unsupervised visitation).

I wonder if parents get scared close to reunion because they sense they can't (or don't want to) parent these kids-so they do something to sabotage their return. They love them and won't do TPR so the kids can be adopted-but at the same time, they are afraid to regain custody.

[HOPEFULINPA]

That is just horrible. Thank God he knows he has you to count on.

[MBelt8402]

"I learned early on from my first placement that I do not discuss court or timeframes to children. To many times have the court gone the opposite of what was planned. Then you have to explained to the child."

I would have loved to not talk to him about it. But he has been having 2-3 day a week visits for months now. He was packed and going home in two hours, and not coming back. We had to talk to him about it. He didn't understand and thought he was just going for another visit, and would be coming back "Home" (his words). All she had to do was show up in court.

[chevyjewel]

Originally Posted by HOPEFULINPA

That is just horrible. Thank God he knows he has you to count on.

I agree.

Keep fighting the good fight hun. I know it's tough but you are the best thing in this kiddos life right now.

[momagain5]

hey i now this is hard,but one way to look at it is maybe this is the best for now.if she is not ready to have child home,best he doesnt go home now.who knows why she didnt show and what this will mean for her case.just be there for him right now is all you can do.

[AmahMama]

In our state - bio's are not to talk to kids about court or timeframes (it is considered "inappropriate") and I don't even tell them about a visit beforehand - as then I have disappointed kids when there is a no show. Being "Amah" (caregiver) is a really, really tough job. I feel sorry for the guy. If he returns home, he will need to get used to being disappointed - it's a cold, hard fact - but a fact none the less.