[makarios79]

This morning I found out that my former foster kids Boom Boom and the Munchkin have been redetained into foster care. They went home around the beginning of November 07 and Tuesday of this week they were redetained because mom left them alone for 2 days.

Thank God the cw just happened to go by the house to check on them (she lives in the area) and she discovered the kids home alone filthy with overloaded diapers with #1 and #2 in them. She said the diapers were hanging down to their knees...They hadn't eaten in 2 days... Boom Boom opened the door for her. I am so happy that the kids didn't leave the house before she got there!!!

When the cw told me that I couldn't stop crying. To be honest I can't stop crying now. I have been out of town and just got back yesterday. I called cw this morning because we had court today for Chocolate Thunder and this is when she told me the news.

CT was supposed to be with mom from Dec 24-Jan 14. That did not happen. He went to mom's on the 24th. He went to his paternal gma from Dec 25-28. Went back to mom on the 28th and mom asked me to come get CT because he needed to go to daycare. I told her if he needed to go, she needed to take him and that if I came to get him, I was taking him out of town with me. She was like fine, he just needs to go because I can't drag him around town with me until you get back from out of town. I told her I would come and get him Monday before I went out of town.

She called me several times on Saturday the 29th with CT crying in the background and I refused to go get CT. My mom had the other boys and this was the first weekend since I had the boys that I had a "child free" weekend and I was NOT about to give that up for ANYONE!!!

Anyway, mom called cw Saturday hysterical thinking that I left CT here and went out of town and that she would have to deal with him until I got back....CW said that mom said that CT loves me more than he loves her. How does a 1 y/o love one person more than another? all a 1 y/o knows is that he is with a strange person (i.e mom) and the only reason that she is strange is because he hasn't seen her in almost 3 months prior to going there on Dec 24th. She hasn't given him anytime to "love" her..but anyhoo....

After mom came back home and cw finally talked with mom to tell her they had the other kids. She asked mom to let me adopt CT and mom said she would sign away her rights....CW said that while she was talking to mom, the police pulled up to arrest mom. Mom told cw that this is all your fault....CW told her ..NO THIS IS ALL YOUR FAULT!!!!!

CT's dad has done nothing on his caseplan, so she is going to ask him to sign too, but she is not sure he will, so they may have to go for a involuntary TPR....

Everything is still up in the air....and I am still waiting to see how court went today...

I am extremely sad for BB and TM..but I am glad that I took CT out of town with me.. I know she would have left him there alone as well.

I guess mom will get another reunification case plan for BB and the Munchkin and the CW said that they are switching CT's case plan over to adoption. BB, CT and TM have an older brother that is also in foster care...mom is signing away rights on him as well...

Please pray for mom...and the kids...

[makarios79]

Well, I just talked to the cw and she said that mom didn't show up for court today and she found out that mom's gma had her admitted to the psych ward of the local hospital. She will be released on Monday and she will be immediately arrested and charge with her 3rd offense of child abuse.

The next court date is Feb 4 and they are going to ask the judge to terminate that day on ALL THE KIDS and with this judge that is very possible.

Now I really feel sorry for BB and TM...There is no way I can afford to adopt 3 more DAYCARE AGED kids to make a total of 5 kids...

[sunsetsky]

My heart goes out to you and your children. I am so proud that you are looking for them even though you know you will not be adopting them.

[lakin11]

Sorry to hear about the situation with the kids!
Even more sorry to hear you won't be able to adopt them as well. I know you loved them! Hoping and praying for the best outcome for you all.

[committedsoul]

You are in my prayers. Hugs, Peace, and Blessings.

[vernellinnj]

The heartache that some children go through just breaks my heart.

Praying for the children, their bio parents and YOU!

[sarah3015]

What a sad story. Poor little peanuts. Praying for all the babies involved in that situation. I hope there will be some sort of good news out of this soon, that those little ones will find a family quickly and be placed as soon as possible in an adoptive home!

[hkolln]

OMG...I'm so sorry to hear that sad news. It's very heartbreaking to hear. I know you loved them while they were with you and it has to be hard. Let's hope the kids are protected this time and get a loving, safe and secure home to be adopted into.

Keep us updated.

[bjhv5]

Mack,
I am so sorry o hear about the other kids,but happy for CT! If I remeber correctly they have judge G? I am sure he will go head with TPR in this case. Can you talk to them about maybe covering daycare so you could adopt all 3? Stranger things have happened

[MomwithFive]

I am glad that they have you to look out for them. I hope they are able to find good homes for them. (((Hugs))) It's so hard to watch. *sigh

[naca]

Ack! How scary! Those poor little ones!! As for not being able to afford to adopt all three- is that something that DCS can work with you on daycare expenses in order to keep the siblings together? Will they not qualify for adoption subisdy being siblings? Good luck in whatever you decide!

[radkat]

Poor babies They've already been through so much.

Hopefully whoever ends up with them will be willing to maintain contact between them all.

I'm suprised they don't qualify for a subsidy.

[makarios79]

Originally Posted by naca

Ack! How scary! Those poor little ones!! As for not being able to afford to adopt all three- is that something that DCS can work with you on daycare expenses in order to keep the siblings together? Will they not qualify for adoption subisdy being siblings? Good luck in whatever you decide!

Yes they do qualify for adoption subsidy but it is no where near enough to cover daycare expenses..
according to them I make too much money to continue with the daycare subsidy after adoption and besides that I am moving out of the state later this year and there is no guarantee that if I move that the next state will continue the daycare subsidy...

And right now I feel like it is too much for me as a single woman to have five toddlers full time....I had all 5 of them (CT and his siblings plus my other 2 boys) at one time and it was a bit much. 5 kids age 3 and under is a lot to handle alone. Heck it's a lot to handle when you are married.

AND.....It is my plan to get married later this year and future dh has already said no to adopting BB & TM and he is very much apart of this decision as it is effecting his life as well...

So for right now we only plan to adopt CT...I am sure that BB & TM will find a great adpotive family and I have no problem staying in touch with their new adoptive family...I know it would be great for all of them to grow up together..but I know right now we are not the right family for them ((sigh))

[makarios79]

Originally Posted by bjhv5

Mack,
I am so sorry o hear about the other kids,but happy for CT! If I remeber correctly they have judge G? I am sure he will go head with TPR in this case. Can you talk to them about maybe covering daycare so you could adopt all 3? Stranger things have happened

Yes they do have Judge G. I am also pretty sure he will TPR in this case as well...especially since it has been a year since they have been under protective custody and the fact that mom LEFT THEM ALONE IN THE HOUSE...and this is her 3rd child abuse charge and she is going to jail for what may be a very long time....and all the dads (all the kids have different dads) have done nothing on their case plan or are not in the picture at all....

She pretty much should have just signed them away if she was going to do something that stupid (IMHO) because she knows Judge G doesn't play when it comes to his kids....

[adopt2010]

makarios-

I was just thinking about you and your boys. I was wondering about CT's case, now it seems that CT will be your third son. It's just sad that things had to happen this way. You and your family are in my prayers...please keep us updates.

On a side note: I think i read that you are planning to get married later this year...wow glad to hear that things are going so well with you and the bf.