[Imdamommy]

The children are running wild and we don't have anymore ideas. They are ages 3-12 years old. Things that have worked in the past, but are no longer working: 1, 2, 3 magic, time out, taking away toys, video games, tv, earning special prizes for good behavior (stickers, staying up 10 min. past bedtime, tv, game and computer time)

Problem behaviors are jumping on beds, furniture, running, hitting, spitting, throwing stuff, back talk, calling names, not picking up messes, refusing to brush teeth, use soap.

I have tried to use natural consequenses, but I can't think of them for most of the behaviors. I also am not willing to let them have natural cons. like falling off stuff if they are jumping or cavities from not brushing.

Any new ideas for us?

[JessicaBaker]

Any ideas what is driving these behaviors? Lack of attention, poor impulse control, previous chaotic environments, etc? If you could somehow get at the cause you may be more successful.

How many kids are we talking?

[shelleyterrell]

That may be a dumb question - but maybe with the busy holiday season the 'rules' weren't enforced how they had been? We have five children ages 1 - 10, they are pretty well behaved, but will try to get away with stuff sometimes - but we are always consistent -and we occasionally go over the 'rules' as a family when i feel they are 'forgetting' them. Also, are they fc or bc? Before we decided we wanted to foster we had a licensed daycare - open seven days 24 hours, on average 8 -10 kids ages 12 and under (inc. our 5 bc), it took a few weeks for them to 'learn' our 'rules'. They had NO consistency or consequences at home, so it took awhile to realize they couldn't do what they wanted when they wanted at our house. It takes time. One last thing, my parents and some of our friends are like 'wow, you have a lot of rules' or you guys are strict - and i say: when you have a house full of children there has to be rules or it would be like a mad house every day. Make the rules positive, instead of no running in the house, its walk in the house. No yelling - we talk in indoor voices etc.
Good luck!

[JessicaBaker]

Here's a suggestion, only partly joking.
Make a video and submit it to SuperNanny or Nanny 911!

Another idea is to implement a family meeting which gives everyone, including you, a chance to talk about what is working well as a family and what is not.

[atouchofheaven]

read the book "love and logic". filter out the stuff that may be beyond your personal values and get inspiration and ideas from the rest. it's great especially for older kids.

[Imdamommy]

We had a family meeting and came up with few new ideas and a reward system. We have several children and have just moved to a new house. We also have multiple issues, ADHD, poor impulse control, sensory integration disorder, auditory processing disorder, and a lack of playing outside due to extreme cold.
I am hoping to find a copy of love and logic to read also.

[ECDGA]

I second the love and logic--great book for all ages. An idea for the not using proper hygiene that we learned when we took a course for our adhd/odd son. Make them practice. Works like a charm. Example-our son "showered" in the morning--without using soap or shampoo(around 10 at the time). In the evening we told him he would need to practice showering since he did not know how to do it properly. He came out three times and was sent back in three times. If the practice can take place during a favorite show that is a bonus! After that one time we didn't have any problems.