[crzydayz]

Ok my head is spining, this is our first call from our agency, and they want to place in our home leaning toward adoption. All they can say about b-parents is the father is not fit, and has to take classes, and the b-mom has to take classes to learn how to deal with him. She has taken as many as she can until he catches up on his. They said the children have not been harmed, and I could probably figure out what is going on from that, but guess what ......I have know idea what they are talking about...what is the issue with b-parent? Any ideas?

[tvs4]

Domestic violence between parents ? Could be a reason to keep kids away from both parents until the situation is somehow "settled" - like mom leaves dad, dad gets treatment, etc.

Parental Drug/Alcohol Use? Then both parents would have to do drug treatment programs. The children may have been removed for neglect or if parents ended up looking at jail time. Dad may have an addiction problem and mom may be ordered for classes for spouses of addicts

However, if both parents are working on their plan (or it sounds like at least mom is doing something) then i'm not sure why they would say it is leaning toward adoption.

[emcal]

Always remember in foster care the plan is RU ALWAYS!

[bethy724]

I would ask the agency (specifically) your concerns. I agreee w/ Brandi that in foster care the goal is RU, yey an agency will say anything for you to take the child - even bend the truth to get your hopes up.

I would demand straight answers from the agency or not take the placement. Good luck.

[crzydayz]

The children are already in a foster home, just told to start looking for an adoptive home, does this sound right?

[tvs4]

Unless the SWs are seeking TPR - then no, that dosen"t sound right.

Ask to speak to the other foster family - they might be able to give you history on the case and ask the SWs specific questions _ i've found they operate with a don"t ask don"t tell policy.

[Boulderbabe]

It sounds to me like there's a domestic violence situation, or a situation where bDad is doing drugs. BMom is trying to comply with the treatment plan, but won't ditch bDad, so unless bDad complies, the kids will go to adoption.

If they are approaching the state permanency guideline, or if they're getting close to the ASFA deadline, the court is going to want DSS to begin concurrent planning. And that means moving the kids to a potential adoptive home.

There is no guarantee that you'll be able to adopt. But if the case has gone this long, and bDad still won't work his plan, the odds are not good that he'll have a change of heart. OTOH, if Bmom leaves him, and she's compliant, she'll get the kids back.

Does this help? Seem to fit the facts?