[FosterSurroBirthMom]

Well we got a little guy from the hospital about 6 weeks ago, we were "told" by the caseworker that mom had her other 2 children taken and that this guy and his siblings were going to be free because none of the family was legit...so we take our caseworkers word and we get our home ready...(we have 3 daughters of our own) so we prepare for 2 more girls and this little guy. About 2 weeks later, we have the baby boy but no sisters yet, mind you we have redone their room into disney princess from tonka trucks that were in there and then the caseworker says "well grandma stepped forward but she isn't a concern to US (meaning all of DHS & CPS she said) but we have to go thru the motions and do the homestudy legally...I was like UGH ok no biggie, well sure enough the court date came that was suppose to send the girls to our home and the court put them with grandma, well after talking to several people the ONLY person trying to yank this kids from the bio famaily was my caseworker, all the rest were pulling for the grandma!!!! I was livid, our first placement and we had to get this kind of caseworker, so all the money that we spend redoing a boys room into a girls room and not to mention the heartache!! UGH...so the judge says to grandma...."We are placing the girls with you for a trial period if you seem to do ok with them and all the services we are going to offer then in August we will transition the lil guy into your home as well....I KNOW this is a part of foster care but the caseworker even said...well this is what you want, a baby boy, that is adoptable, right from the hospital, etc etc etc...I was like man what a low blow So anyway....I am trying to remain positive but its rough....but then....I talk openly about trying to adopt at work, well there is a man who is 55, has grandkids, and mentioned that his girlfriend was pregnant and they had dicussed and decided they wanted to put the baby up for adoption...she gave her other 4 kids to their dad(s) at birth almost, a few weeks old, she just isn't mom material she says...(I want to say Um Hello birth control) but I didnt...anyway he asked would I be interested....I was like well UMMM I would be but I REFUSE to get my hopes up until I know for sure...so here is my questions...
1. Is there a way to go about adoption without a year long court issue?? If they surrender to my husband and I?
2. anyone know what steps I will have to take?

Please help...I have never set this up before...would it be *better* to let DHS take the child into the system so to speak and I pick the baby up from the hospital and they have the parents surrender?? that way its legally sound for sure?? Please let me know...thanks a ton!!

Kyle

[jillned]

You would need to talk to an adoption attorney. This could be done as an identified adoption. You would still need to go to court for the adoption and in our state it takes about six months to finalize.