[hesabanana]

Hi Everyone,
With the holidays upon us, I miss my fd more and more. It has been five months since she has been gone, and it has not gotten any easier. Bmom has her at the rehab (still). My ds continues to talk about his sister all the time. Bmom would not let us send any Christmas gifts, but cw mixed them in with the charitable donations that were designated for her. I would appreciate your prayers and words of encouragement.

[tattudemom]

There really are no words to ease your missing her, but if you're worried about her welfare, at least you know she's with a group of folks who will look out for her and not with bmom alone somewhere. It's also great that cw snuck her gifts in the others. It's ridiculous that anyone wouldn't want their daughter to have Christmas gifts, but now you have the secret knowledge that fd will be enjoying something you gave her with love. Was the plan for ru all along, or were you hoping for an adoption situation with her? I'm sorry you're missing her, but at least bmom is sticking to the plan by being at the rehab where she'll be monitored. Do the kids get to see each other at all now?

I see your progress in adopting from Guatemala. Maybe the pace will pick up with that and keep you busy preparing for the new arrival. Best of luck in this tough situation.

[hesabanana]

The TPR for her brother was in process when she was placed with us, and we were assured that fd's TPR would be expedited. FD is bmom's fifth child, and the only one she has not yet lost. Outside social service agencies involved in the case have expressed concerns to the Court that fd has significantly regressed since being reunited with bmom. Rehab is not as good as it sounds; they have been documented as covering up bmom's positive toxes and missed visits. The children see each other once a month for an hour in a conference room. My Guatemalan adoption is proceeding well, and we are very much looking forward to him coming home, but that child cannot and is not intended to replace fd.

[tattudemom]

Of course I didn't mean he'd replace her, just that occupying your mind with the process would hopefully help you not feel the pain since you would'nt have as much time to think.

I fear your very situation for myself. We're going into it as foster/adopt and even though they say we'd only get kids whose plan is TPR, there is the risk that the parent will suddenly get them back.

Hopefully, if the judge listens to others' concerns, he'll send her back with her brother and you. Again, there isn't much I can say, but I'm sorry you're going through this and hope it all works out for you.

[Kelly Rae]

I'm so sorry for your pain I know from experience that holidays making the missing worse. I will keep you and your daughter in my prayers.

[twinflana]

I just wanted to say my prayers are with you. Hopefully one day soon they will realize what is in the best interest of the child.

[vegaschristina]

I am in a similar situation. I am the adoptive mom to one child and the foster mom to her bio siblings. They are working on TPR for this little guys and God willing, we'll adopt them and complete our family.

One thing that they mentioned to us is the posibility (if the adoption doesn't go thru) is sibling visits. If your adopted child is the biological sibling of your FC, then in Nevada your child would have the RIGHT to sibiling visits. Not sure what would be the case in your state, but you might want to discuss them with FC's CW.

Then at least you would be able to maintain contact.

[bumpkin]

Thinking and praying for you too! I wish I could find words to comfort you, but the only thing I can remember is last christmas we were in your shoes.... dear fd was RU 3 months earlier.

Hugs out to you friend. Maybe things will change when she get's out of rehab and has to do it on her own. Any idea how long she will stay?