[kikibrando]

I've been reading a great deal on the boards this week and thinking about all the great feedback I've received. Thank you very much for all the input.

After a great deal of soul-searching, my husband and I agreed we aren't cut out for this. Once our oldest foster child leaves, we decided to take a break to concentrate on our kids. We won't accept anymore children, emergency or respite. It's been too difficult on our kids and we think they need more of a break than we do.

We still want to adopt our infant daughter, if we are blessed to have her case follow to TPR. But, should the Lord have another plan, we won't be pursuing anymore foster/adopt situations through DSS.

I appreciate everyone who took time to post their thoughts to my queries. It really helped a great deal.

[tddjc]

You have to do what's best for your family! God bless

[kaylasmom]

Everyone need's to do what's best for there bio kids, I think it's great that you will do this for your kid's. It show's what a great fostermom you must have been, and I'm sure will be again.

Your family has to be #1 priority, I'm sure you will be missed greatly by the sw's, kids and everyone who know's you in your fostering area.

Take the time you need, that way you will come back...may God bless you and your family, and keep in touch with this board. you will be missed otherwise.

[kikibrando]

I'm not leaving the board. We are still going to keep our baby until the case comes to whatever conclusion it will.

We just aren't going to continue as an active placement resource anymore. Once Baby S's case is concluded (God willing an adoption), we will close our home.

[mom2GRLC]

I don't know how many times I have said that myself. But for some reason when (the right) call came in...I just knew it and felt it and accepted it...and I am so glad i did, because now we have had my sone for almost 2 years and are adopting him in the next couple months. And next week we are getting his newborn baby brother who just came into care. So my only advice is take a break for a while....only keep the baby...but if a call comes in and you feel good about it...TAKE IT!!! It could be your future forever child.

[savannah2]

I didnt even realize you had a baby there! He will have her to raise right from the beginning! How much better does it get ! I hope everything goes thru for you.
good luck with the sw,Im not sure its a good idea tho to say your hanging up your hat till after this baby is adopted. Dont want to rub them the wrong way,if you get my drift.

[FosterSurroBirthMom]

I think you are fantastic for thinking of your wellbeing & your families, although we would love to help all these kids we need to not ruin our kids or hurt them in the process....Based on your posts I would say you gave it 100% and its not working so....I give you soo much praise and hugs for going as far as you have...Keep your head up, you are heavensent!!

[stevenstwin]

Okay, well I'm really disappointed to hear that you won't be fostering anymore. Because I'm afraid that you will stop posting here! ;-) Seriously, I think you are doing the right thing - your kids need a break, and you hubby (hope I'm not overstepping here) has some work to do on strengthening his bond with them. Hope we still see you around, though!

[Kate1129]

Originally Posted by tddjc

You have to do what's best for your family! God bless

I agree!!!!!!