[lakin11]

I love my dh dearly, don't get me wrong, but he really pushed my bottons this morning! Our little man (16 days) had a loooooong night. He's been staying awake more during the day and has decided he likes that better than sleep! He will fight the sleep with every inch of his body, all 19 of them! Well anyway, from 4ish-5:30ish the baby was on a sleep 10 mins, wake up, scream cycle. I'd get up, paci back in, repeat the cycle. I'd wait a few minutes to see if he's stop screaming and he didn't until the paci was in his mouth. So finally at 5:30, I told dh, please go see if you can get him to sleep! He replies to me "He's just a baby, you have to be patient"!!!!! Hellooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo! I was so not happy with him. Like I'm not already doing nearly everything for him and the other 3 kids as it is. And darn if that baby went to sleep as soon as he stuck the paci in his mouth and rubbed his forehead a minute. Out till 8:30 w/o a peep......so that makes him all cocky.
MEN! I know he has to work all day, but believe me he has a cushy job w/ little stress. I'm here all day with 5 kids and all the drama that goes with that! He made a comment this morning when getting ready that he didn't have anything to wear......I told him I'll quit then and HE can do the laundry. We'd go a few days and then have to run around naked if we depeneded on that!
Sorry for another vent! Just had to sound off w/ people who understand!

[twinflana]

Boy does this sound familiar. Have you considered maybe that the baby was sensing your frustrations and feeding off of this. It happens with new bio moms all the time and I dont see why it couldnt happen with you. Have you tried putting him in a swing? I know it worked wonders for my first newborn who would scream from about 11:00pm to 1 or 2 am every night.

[yanknrebel]

HAHAHA. I KNOW where you are coming from. I have a dh who works long hours so that I can stay at home with our 4 year old and 2 year old twins. Well as if the twins weren't enough to handle, our four year old is a HMD (high maintenance DIVA)!!! She wants your attention every second of every day. EVery 3 minutes, she will ask you for something . No matter what you are doing. SHe talks NON STOP. Anyway, my husband decided to play hookie yesterday. I had not been feeling well the night before nor during the night. I had only gotten a few hours of sleep due to feeling badly. So yesterday, I took a nap on the couch. Now I LOVE my naps but never get to take one except on weekends and that is ONLY after I have the twins both down for theirs, My dh just can't handle all three of them. So, I took a short nap but was awakened when our 2 year old son woke from his nap. Well to my surprise my husband changed his diaper . While I was awake, I had not yet opened my eyes, preferring to see how long it would take before my husband "WOKE" me to tell me they were up. WHICH he has done almost always. So much to my surprise, not only did he change our son's diaper, but it was a stinky one. LOL Then , our 2 year old daughter got up, he changed her and made them all a pb and j sandwich for lunch. I LET him do it all. After it was all done, they were cleaned up and all went to playroom to play, then I WOKE up. LOL Pretty mean I know, but I wanted HIM to see what I have to deal with 24/7 . That is not counting all the house work that us mom's have to do as well. He just doesn not participate with the care of the kids at all. I have to ASK him to help me tuck the kids in bed most nights. SO it was good for him.

yanknrebel

[shycar]

Lol MEN!!!!!!!!!!!!! You know sometimes men think that becouse we are home all day we have it easy. Last week my hubby, who is most of time very helpful and supportive, called me lazy. He decided to make dinner one night. Mind you I already made dinner, just not want he expected . He left a mess in the kitchen. I made the comment that he needs to clean it. He flat out told me "Well Im not the one who sits on my A** all day. Oh boy, we rarely argue, but that started WW 3. He of course apoligized the next day and bought me flowers and cleaned the house. His job is stressful, but I swear some day I want to clogg him in the head, becouse he needs to understand his jobs stops when he leaves the office, mine is 24 hours 7 days a week.

[thediva320]

AHHHHHH MEN, DON'T U JUST LOVE THEM! Just kidding, I know how you feel lakin! Dylan is like that. Some nights he is fine, other nights he is up constantly and my dh is comatose. I have spent many a night in Dylan's room, he preferrs from 130 until about 5am. Drives me insane. There are times I just resort to sleeping on the floor in his room simply because it's too much work for me to keep getting out of bed. AND let it be known, DH gets SEVERAL nasty looks throughout the night! LOL.
As for the working hubby vs the SAHM, mine says I have no stress and all I do is sit and watch tv all day. He says that I can go to work at his job one day and he will do mine. I NEED TO SEE THAT. I tell him he won't last 5 minutes! Naps on the weekends are a no go, hubby can't deal with a crying toddler for more than 5 seconds before HE throws a tantrum.
SAHMs UNITE!!! SAHM POWER!! LOL

[GingerR]

I hear ya! I stay home all day with our 20-month-old who is already well into the "terrible 2" stage and our 3 week old newborn.

And I work from home in a job that requires me to return work within 2 hours of having it faxed to me, so there are times when I am plugging away trying to get work finished while fd is whining over the latest crisis (a toy she can't reach) and fs has decided he's ready to eat at least an hour-and-a-half before schedule. Plus they both need a diaper change and the phone is ringing and the dogs want out.

I will say that my husband is doing his part this time with the newborn and we are alternating "baby nights" so one of us isn't totally wiped out all the time. BUT, you would think the world was ending, the way he complains about it. Before, I probably would have caved and offered to just do it all the time so I didn't have to listen to the complaining, but I've wised up and learned that delegating can be a beautiful, freeing thing.

[Lamaena]

LOL....I can so relate to all you ladies...being a SAHM is by far the toughest job I have EVER had!!!
Being a mother (period) requires a level of commitment and attention no other job requires, the hours suck and the salary is well bellow average, but I must say it is vvvvverrrrrryyyyy rewarding to see the faces on the little monkeys I have running around wild in our home.
Sometimes I talk about how tired I am, and really, like most women, all I am looking for is a little empathy and perhaps a little more participation. I don't have much to complaint about, my dh is helpful, just never as helpful as I'd like him to be. There are days I question if he rrreeeeaaaaaaallllllllyyyyyyyy understands what it entails to do the job of a SAHM.
In the mean time, I'll just try to hold on to my sanity!

[AmyAnne]

Reminds me of the time kiddo was up with a stomachache. BAD one. Turned out every 20 minutes I was dragging myself out of bed to check on him. Spent about 10 mins rubbing his back and making comforting noises, then went back to bed. Finally about 4:30 I asked DH to please check on kiddo for me. He's back in 30 seconds. "HE still feels bad" and went BACK TO BED. Well, I could've done THAT.

[kaylasmom]

Well it just goes to show all men are alike..lol..My dh is a wonderful man who TRIES to help as much as he can, by letting me what i ned to do..lol..the baby needs changed, the baby is crying and on and on. He will take the older ones when I need help, what help to take my helpers lol The last time I took a newborn and he stayed up most the night my dh said it was your choise (suck it up) in other words. I love when they think because we are sahm we set around reading and eating, I wonder how they think a house with 7 kids from 2-11 stays kinda clean, the laundry is almost done and food is cooked yet the kitchen has no dishes in the sink????????? I don't expect him to come home and take ver for me, I man he has worked all day, but a 20min bath with no kids at the door doesn't seem much to ask. We have all been there, and it truely helps reading it once in a while. I wouln't trade my dh for anything I love him dearly, but sometimes I wonder if his brain works..lol..glad to here you got a soory and flowers, and for him to clean the house was the BEST gift a dh could give, hang in there lakin, try a swing, or a bounce seat they seem to help..good luck