[gregorysparents]

FYI: Scott and I had to go yesterday morning and spend two ours with a psychiatrist - Dr. W. Dr. W was one of the Dr.'s that sent a report to the courts (before the February 2005 termination hearing) stating that Gregory should never be placed back with his birth parents. The birth parents had their appointment several weeks ago. The reason we had to see this Dr. is because Gregory's birth parents want us (and have from the start) to have NOTHING to do with him. We want to (for Gregory's sake) remain in contact with him and have continued visitation with him two Sunday's a month (the way we have since he has been removed from our home).

We have followed all of the rules for these visitations. We have never taken him to our home. We share him with our Church family and with other members of our famliy on these Sunday's.

The Dr. said that we appear to be doing everything right and that the "problems" appear to be with the birth parents. Having said this, the Dr. said that Gregory has to live with these birth parents - so even though we are doing everything right - we probably won't be allowed visitation with him. He also said that if he was to do the parenting report again - his recommendation would still stay the same - "Don't send Gregory back to his birth parents."

So, yesterday afternoon we received this email from Gregory's caseworker - this sums up everything and everything is final:

I talked to Dr. W today after your appointment. He is recommending that visitation between you both and Gregory taper off. We know you have visitation this weekend and so the next visit will be August 13 (for his birthday). The following month in September, it will be Sept 10 for his goodbye visit. Dr. W recommended that when Greg asks about you or wants to talk to you, that they call you and that you keep in contact with cards/letters and on special occasions you could be invited by the parents to participate (that, of course, will be up to them). We have notified the parents of these dates through their attorney. If you have further questions, please contact me.

Just thought you might like to know. We are pretty sure that Gregory won't be allowed to call us and we know that we will never be invited to be a part of his life. But, you know what? We feel good in the fact that we have done everything possible to be a part of this little boy's life. We also feel good in knowing that the Dr. (according to what he told us in his office) feels like we have been doing the right things.

Please keep Gregory and his family in your thoughts and prayers. Please pray for his safety and please pray that he can grow up into a fine young man. Please pray that he will overcome the emotional effects that he might have from all of the changes and etc. that he has gone thru already in his short life. We will always love him and we will always feel like he is our little boy - no matter where he lives. Please pray that somehow, someway, Gregory will carry around the knowledge that while he may not be able to see us - that he will know that we will ALWAYS love him.

Thanks so much.

Scott and Christina

[5starday]

Can't even find the words...

My heart is breaking for you!

[redfred]

You are all in our prayers.



Only the immense love of a true mother is able to fight for her child with every last breath until there are no doors left unopened and no battle left unchallenged. A mothers love recognizes when she is challenged to that which she thought was not possible, to hug and kiss and bless her child as she lets him go to the unknown without her, knowing that their paths may never cross again. There is no greater earthly love that this. Borrow some of my strength my friend as you say good-bye to your son. Your blessings, and your love will be with him always. Your grace and your love will be what he carries with him. You have taught him to fight like a warrior and to love unconditionally as God loves us.



And God hears you as you cry as only we mothers who have lost children do.

[stevenstwin]

I am so sorry! I've thought of you often and prayed that some miracle would bring him back to you. I'll continue to keep you and Gregory in my prayers.

[Boulderbabe]

I am so very sorry for you. You must be just aching inside. But I'm most sorry of all for Gregory, not only because he's being sent back to crummy parents, but because his crummy parents don't even care enough to let him keep the important people in his life.

The things the system does to kids....

[bumpkin]

I am just so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

[gregorysparents]

Thanks for all of the kind words.

We have said good-bye to Gregory once - March 27 when he was removed - but - we knew that we would still be able to see him.

On September 10th, it will be good-bye forever - all because the birth parents (mainly the birth mom) hates us and doesn't understand how continued contact with us is good and healthy for Gregory. It's all about her - not Gregory or his two sisters.

Christina

[Faith65]

Christina,

I don't have the words that will comfort you at this time. Please know I have been in the same shoes as you are a few yrs back. Same type of response from psychiastric with biom and me. And it's all about biom not about B either. It was in response to start reunivaction of B to biom. But it never panned out. After 13 placements, 5 yrs later and B and I never thinking we would be back together we are! We still need to get through TPR in Nov. but biof is in agreement with DCF, lawyers, B and us that she is ours and will be adopted by us. Biof is consenting! We just have to deal with biom. There are miracles! Please don't count them out.

Know that Gregory will always hold your love close to his heart. Somewhere in his consiness he will know and be a better person for all that you and Scott gave him. My love and prayers are with you and always Gregory.

How is Wyatt?

Always,

[Happy123]

I am so sorry. Gregory will never forget you and I know that when he comes looking for you--your door will be open. You have planted many seeds in his young mind that will always continue to grow. You gave him the foundation for his life.

Are you on record for them to call if he is removed again?
You are in my prayers.
Happy123

[hesabanana]

Christina,

I am so sorry for you, your family, and Gregory. You have been so supportive of me; I admire your strength in such an amazingly difficult situation. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Brenda

[gregorysparents]

Brenda, I am sorry for your recent loss. How are you doing?

Christina

[ml4474]

My heart is breaking for you... Know that I am praying for Gregory and his family but I am also praying for you. You have given of yourself, your home, your life... sometimes things just seem so unfair - I wish and will pray that Gregory's birthparents realize how much you have given to their son and to them...