[cheern4gordn]

Our Prince Charming arrived at our home on 2/17 when he was 11 months old. He went home to his bio-mom and sisters (I guess his other two brothers are going to return home eventually, too) on 7/7 and I am lost in severe depression and i dont know where else to turn i miss his little smiling face and his ornery grin and the pitter patter of his chubby feet when he takes off running from me when he knows hes gotten into something he shouldnt. Oh God we had hoped and prayed that we might be able to adopt him but i guess that wasnt Gods plan. I miss him so much i cant sleep all i want to do is cry Please tell me that a CW WILL watch his home carefully that they wont just pretend to do their job His CW never once came to do a home visit while he was here for 5 months but shes gonna watch his bio home better right? Do the bio parents ever really just decide it would be better for the child to return to their foster home? He never has lived at home with her was removed at bnirth. I'm praying for my Prince Charming and his bio mom and sisters please pray for me and my family as we are suffering like we never have before thank you

[5starday]

I have never experienced your pain, but I feel for you. Your post made me cry and I can only imagine what you must be going through!

Everything happens for a reason (or so I am repeatedly told!!!). Perhaps him going home was to enable you to open your arms for another???

Stay strong!

[mommyto9]

I am so sorry! That is our worst fear as fp's. I will be praying for you and for your fc. I wish we knew exactly why certain things happen. God is in control. God Bless you....

[aunlanpo]

Ohhh Honey.... Your little prince charming will be watched very closely by his Father in heaven who promises to never leave him and never to forsake him.

Lord, come to this family at this moment and minister to each one of them, ease their suffering and bring them peace. Jesus, wipe away every tear from this mother's eye and every worry from her brow. Speak into her your faithfulness to this little boy. God, You say in Isaiah "Can a mother forget the child she has borne and have no compassion on the babe at her breast? Though she may forget, I will not forget you. See, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands." Lord, our first thought is that a mother could not forget her child, but You know our human frailty, You know our human weakness and failure. And You say that even when a mother is frail, weak, a failure to her child, You will not be. You will hold that child so close to Yourself, that he is with You always, indeed a part of You. And the scars on Your palms are the finished work of the cross. For this baby boy. For this mom, and family, and birthfamily. And You promise that You are for us, not against us. Jesus, I pray that You will come to this birth mom. I pray that You will burden her to love and care for this child, for all of the children with her. Lord, burden this birth mother to seek out help in areas that she needs it. Surround her with support and accountability. Someone, somewhere was looking out for these children at the beginning, when they first came into foster care, and Lord, I thank You for Your faithfulness to them at that time. And I pray that You will keep people around this family that will speak truth to this birth mom, people that will make necessary decisions on behalf of these children if the need arises for them to be removed again. And Lord, I plead that if they need to be removed again, that no harm will come to these children, and that if it is imminent, it will happen sooner than later, and that this boy will then be returned to this family. Jesus, I pray for this little boy. Lord, You know him by name, You created him in Your own image with Your perfect love, and he is Your own. I pray that You will minister to him right now, filling him with your peace that transcends all understanding. Comfort him and continue to ease his suffering. Give him a sense of Your presence, and fill him with your love. You say that Your perfect love drives out all fear. I pray that You will drive out all fear from this little boy, his foster mother, father, and family. Help them to trust in You Lord, and to give him over to Your trustworthy care. In the precious name of Jesus Christ I thank You Praise You and pray these things. Amen

[Lamaena]

Falling in love w/ a child to then have him removed most be the hardest thing to deal w/ as a foster parent and is by far my greatest fear as I embark on the foster parent journey!
I really hope that you find the strenght in your heart to push through the pain and move on to allow another child into your heart as wholeheartedly as you did w/ your Prince Charming.
My heart goes out to you!

[loomistunes]

Hi, I am new here, but I am also a Foster mom. I understand what you are going through..I am sooo sorry for your Loss and it is a Loss. This child was a part of your family, and he is lucky to have been apart of such a LOVING family.. My question to you is, Do you have a relationship with the birthmom? If so maybe you could call and check up on him every so often to make sure things are going smothley...and maybe ease your mind alittle or keep up with the case worker...Ask her how things are progressing and let her know that you would gladley welcome hime back into your home at anytime...Just some thoughts,, My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time.. Jennifer

[Kelly Rae]

Every time you start to worry PRAY. You have an important job now as his momma prayer warrior. My heart goes out to you and prayers to our Father for comfort.

[sgtfirstwife]

I am so sorry for your loss. Though we have not faced it yet, we will be saying goodbye next week to our two little ones. We have only them for six weeks, but they are being placed with relatives that we don't beleive are the right choice, but blood is thicker than water.
I can only get through this with my strength from God. Sometimes when things get too much I just give it all to him and he helps me through the pain.
You are in my heartfelt prayers. I know that God will take care of your little ones and watch over them.

[hesabanana]

I get it. My fd, who we've had 11 months, since she was two months old, is leaving us tomorrow. I get it.

[cheern4gordn]

Originally Posted by hesabanana

I get it. My fd, who we've had 11 months, since she was two months old, is leaving us tomorrow. I get it.

Dear God in Heaven, I am soooooo sorry to hear that you are going to be losing your precious fd. I know too well how you and your family are hurting and I can only say how very sorry I am. I can't even offer any great words of widom to you because the truth is I haven't found anything that has helped ease this pain. But I do offer you huge, tight ((((((HUGS))))))) and will include you in my prayers tonight.

[baby_love]

I know that so many others have replied. I have felt your pain on several occasions. It never hurts any less, and it is a grieving process. God bless you and your family, and remember that if we are not here to take care of these little angels who will?
May your arms and heart be ready to take on the next child who needs a family and a home to call a safe place.
(((((Hugs and god bless you)))))

Angela
DH of 7yrs
adopted D & K through foster care
fd M 8

[hesabanana]

Thanks Tammy. I appreciate the support and hope you and your family are doing well.

[gregorysparents]

Tammi and hesabanana, I understand what you are going thru. Gregory left us March 27th after being placed with us October 4, 2003 (at the ripe old age of 15-months) as a placement to adopt. We were his third foster home. He has not lived with his birth parents since he was 8-months old.

If you ever need to talk, vent, scream, whatever, pm me and I will give you a call.

You all are in my thoughts and prayers.

Christina

[patti Daniels]

Originally Posted by cheern4gordn

Our Prince Charming arrived at our home on 2/17 when he was 11 months old. He went home to his bio-mom and sisters (I guess his other two brothers are going to return home eventually, too) on 7/7 and I am lost in severe depression and i dont know where else to turn i miss his little smiling face and his ornery grin and the pitter patter of his chubby feet when he takes off running from me when he knows hes gotten into something he shouldnt. Oh God we had hoped and prayed that we might be able to adopt him but i guess that wasnt Gods plan. I miss him so much i cant sleep all i want to do is cry Please tell me that a CW WILL watch his home carefully that they wont just pretend to do their job His CW never once came to do a home visit while he was here for 5 months but shes gonna watch his bio home better right? Do the bio parents ever really just decide it would be better for the child to return to their foster home? He never has lived at home with her was removed at bnirth. I'm praying for my Prince Charming and his bio mom and sisters please pray for me and my family as we are suffering like we never have before thank you

I will pray for your Prince Charming and his family. I know how you feel. I was a kinship foster parent for my nieces four children. Two sets of twins. One set was five years old a girl and boy. The second set was twin infants. We stayed in the hospital with the infants and brought them home with us. They were four pounds and 12 oz. We loved them. They stayed about 90 days. I did not think I was getting attached. I tried not to. Boy, I did get attached. When the judge gave them back to my niece I cried. I miss them so much. My niece is doing great now. The children are happy.

[vernellinnj]

I wrote the post below on another thread..

"My experience...I had a foster son for 6 months (my 1st). We were extremely attached to each other. When he returned home in Aug 05 mom asked me to be his Godmom. I saw him frequently (about once a month) up until March 2006 (Easter weekend). When I dropped him home he was very upset at returning. I assured him that I would be back and even said, "don't I always come back". Well, after repeated attempts at calling, I have not received a call back. I suspect his crying when he returned was just too much on mom and dad. I can't say that I'm certain my seeing him is truly in his best interest. He needs to attach to his bio family. I just don't know. But, I miss him terribly and hate that I "didn't come back". I have to trust his parents judgement - prayerfully they will call me at some point."

When my first fosterson left my home I felt like someone had ripped my heart from my chest. It was a pain that I was not prepared for. BUT, I'm thankful that God was by my side and that I did not fall into a depression. God is good - lean on him. He will comfort your heart. AND, he will watch out for your little one - just ask (actually he'll watch over him even if you don't ask).




Blessings..