[stevenstwin]

Had my "court prep" meeting with the lawyer today. I'm really NOT comfortable about court coming up - I'd rather NOT have to testify, and I want to be there for the whole hearing but there is the possibility that I may not be allowed to stay if the bios request that I leave. But the lawyer asked me, in permanency planning, if I would be willing to have joint custody with the bios!! Currently the uncle has an order of private guardianship...one possibility that they are looking at is to award me sole physical custody, but have him retain some of his rights - like access to medical records, school records etc. Anyone ever heard of this?? I need more info if they want to go that direction- like would it mean that I have to actually have contact with the guy, or have him approve any decisions. My gut says no **** way. I'm already worried enough about the fee access they plan to continue.

[Bailey071097]

Well if TPR is a trial, the law does not allow you to be in the courtroom prior to your testimony. You may ask for a release after your testimony that can enable you to stay.

In regards to joint custody... NO WAY!!! All I can imagine is a feeling of limbo for the kiddo and constant interference from the Uncle. Wow! I'm surprised an attorney would even consider this.

[stevenstwin]

The lawyer for Children's Services says that he will take my testimony FIRST so that I can be there for the remainder. The Social Worker backed me up on that, saying that I'm really going to need to be hearing everything A. is hearing so that I can help him sort it all out later. She stressed to the lawyer that I'm the only true confidante he has at this point. I agree about the joint custody - but apparently it HAS been done in some cases! In fact, that is the way they are looking at going on the two little cousins, who will be going to their maternal grandparents.