[japit823]

Can parents just show up because they know where you are going to be with the children. We signed ours up, including our own, for summer hockey and the parents are coming there. Can we tell them not to come?

[tpakra]

I'd bring it up to the case worker...

[Hadley2]

It's probably a good sign, especially if reunification work is going well, that the parents want to be supportive of their children and are interested in their doings. It puts you and your family in a more than awkward spot, however, and wouldn't be appropriate if things are not going well or they or their associates have an antagonistic attitude toward you.

Whether they come or not would usually be the cw's call. If you feel uncomfortable with it or it's clearly inappropriate for the case, let's hope the cw would end it as soon as he/she knows what is happening. Just be sure to remind the cw not to "blame" you for the restriciton with the parents. We have a cw who has a horrible (and, I think, dangerous) habit of saying "if you're comfortable with...." and if we say we are not, THAT is what she tells the parents! Arrgh!

[japit823]

The boys are my newphews and the mother is my sister. When they are there the tension is so thick you would have to cut it. DYFS served them with TPR papers 5/17, and we told DYFS we are willing to adopt. Sister doesn't want me to tell judge that we are willing to adopt, she wants us to go for KLG. I told her "why we are willing to adopt and after 7 1/2 years these boys need stability and to stop bouncing around"