[twinflana]

Let us know what happens after you call the cw tomorrow that definately does not sound right. I am pretty sure that the boys have to have their own room, or at least not sharing with an adult. Did you think to take pictures of him to show that he was wearing the same clothes and was filthy? I would mention also about the younger one being in a "fog" it might just be his mental state but you did mention that grandma did drugs and hopefully he didnt get into any.

[smousekc]

Originally Posted by twinflana

Let us know what happens after you call the cw tomorrow that definately does not sound right. I am pretty sure that the boys have to have their own room, or at least not sharing with an adult. Did you think to take pictures of him to show that he was wearing the same clothes and was filthy? I would mention also about the younger one being in a "fog" it might just be his mental state but you did mention that grandma did drugs and hopefully he didnt get into any.

I will post. Ya know, I didn't take pictures. Thought about it and then didn't, I was so shocked by it all and the visit went so fast.

The behavior was so agitated with R and then to see E not even recognize my husband...that was VERY VERY STRANGE. They were inseperable and he barely waved at us thru a door when we brought R, back.

I feel that I have to report this...the Caseworker told us that she toured the home and that it was a different standard then us but I had no idea that basic care wouldn't be a standard.

Will post when I hear anything. Thanks.

[stevenstwin]

My heart is breaking for you and those poor boys! It is SO obvious that they should be with you. What the heck is wrong with our system?? I am praying for you!

[FtWthHen]

Hi Lynn,

Do these boys have a CASA worker or an attorney? In addition to contacting the caseworker, I would contact the others as well. This does not sound like a safe environment for the boys.

Good luck.

[Hadley2]

JMO, but next time--If it's on the weekend, call the police if you think the child appears to be under the influence of drugs. For a five-year-old to "not recognize" your husband is an emergency IMO. Five-year-olds don't go into a fog unless drugged or under severe stress. Stress that severe has a cause beyond simple sadness.

For today, if you get nowhere with the cw, call CPS and make a direct report. Cws are not protective workers and are sometimes more focused on the reunifying with family agenda than the protective agenda. CPS workers only do protective and will have a different perspective. Even if they work under the same umbrella, they are usually bound to at least take a look when a report is made. Have the boys teachers call, too, if you can as soon as you can.

In our state, kinship, or not, the same homestudy standards apply. I'm pretty sure it's the same most places but cws overlook a lot when they feel like it. They may be trying to avoid a contested adoption down the road, but this little experiment needs to end before irreversible damage is done to those boys.

[bumpkin]

This doesn't sound right.... let us know what happend?

[lakin11]

Anything yet? Been worried about those boys!

[smousekc]

Hello All;

Thank you for your support.

I reported them to everyone I could possible report too. First the director of the Foster program, the caseworker and also the supervisor to the caseworkers....and then CPS!!!!! I can tell you that no one gave me a inkling of hope except CPS which said they were going to the home immediately for a surprise visit that morning.

I have heard NOTHING. On monday we got a call from R, who is in summer school on our answering machine after we got home asking for a ride to summer school...he is 7. Oh Lord.

I again called and reported. And have heard nothing.

The caseworker told me on Monday that the home did not have running water and that they were staying at the birthmothers apartment---{the same birthmom who lost supervised visits} until the water would be turned on sometime today.

I called R's therapist and alerted her and called the therapist the E, 5 saw for one visit and alerted him as well. They are making appts they said.

And so here I sit....what do I do next? Any thoughts? Thank you for helping me so much.

[aunlanpo]

Dear Lord, please protect these children. You say that You are for us and not against us. You say that You will never leave us or forsake us. You say that You are our help in times of trouble. Thank You Lord Jesus that You stand with them and by them right now. Praise You Lord that You love them with an everlasting love and that You are ministering to them right now. Lord, I pray that You will fill those boys and this foster mom and foster dad with Your peace, which You say transcends all understanding. Lord, give them comfort, let each one feel Your loving arms wrapped around them. Lord burden this grandma with compassion and selflessness for these kids, burden her to have an overwhelming desire for all of their needs to be met, every single one of them. Lord, help her to see with clear eyes the ways that she is falling short, and move her to seek help. If there is a medical emergency with the 5 year old, Lord, do one of Your crazy miracles, and bring help to him right now. Jesus, cause all the people that were notified to feel burdened for these boys, to investigate their living arrangement, and put this in their minds Lord, "would I want my child to live here." Move them to do for these children as they would for their very own. And Jesus, cause all involved to find favor with these foster parents, and that if Your will can be fulfilled and the children returned, that You will move this along right away. Today would be so good Lord. And Lord, if this is not the outcome, I pray for Your peace to fall on these parents, help them to trust You fully with these boys. And thank You Jesus that You are trustworthy. Speak Your truth into the spirits of these boys, Lord, and show them how to draw close to You for comfort and security. Thank You Lord that You are a God of comfort and love. In the name of Jesus Christ, I praise You, and thank You, and pray all these things. Amen.

[smousekc]

Originally Posted by aunlanpo

Dear Lord, please protect these children. You say that You are for us and not against us. You say that You will never leave us or forsake us. You say that You are our help in times of trouble. Thank You Lord Jesus that You stand with them and by them right now. Praise You Lord that You love them with an everlasting love and that You are ministering to them right now. Lord, I pray that You will fill those boys and this foster mom and foster dad with Your peace, which You say transcends all understanding. Lord, give them comfort, let each one feel Your loving arms wrapped around them. Lord burden this grandma with compassion and selflessness for these kids, burden her to have an overwhelming desire for all of their needs to be met, every single one of them. Lord, help her to see with clear eyes the ways that she is falling short, and move her to seek help. If there is a medical emergency with the 5 year old, Lord, do one of Your crazy miracles, and bring help to him right now. Jesus, cause all the people that were notified to feel burdened for these boys, to investigate their living arrangement, and put this in their minds Lord, "would I want my child to live here." Move them to do for these children as they would for their very own. And Jesus, cause all involved to find favor with these foster parents, and that if Your will can be fulfilled and the children returned, that You will move this along right away. Today would be so good Lord. And Lord, if this is not the outcome, I pray for Your peace to fall on these parents, help them to trust You fully with these boys. And thank You Jesus that You are trustworthy. Speak Your truth into the spirits of these boys, Lord, and show them how to draw close to You for comfort and security. Thank You Lord that You are a God of comfort and love. In the name of Jesus Christ, I praise You, and thank You, and pray all these things. Amen.

Thank you so much for the beautiful prayer. Thank you.