[twinflana]

For all of you more experienced foster parents. Is it normal that a child is moved out of your home with no notice whatsoever. The cw came this afternoon to take the child for her first visit with her family, when she brought her back she informed me that the bio family made an allegation of abuse due to some bruises the child had from some blood work that was done on the 20th. So we waited for the investigator to show up, he asked me all the pertinent questions told me that it is obvious that the bruises were from blood work and an injection of antibiotics, he would verify with the doctor that she actually had this work done and then he just needed to talk to my daughter and husband whenever they are home, and then said the cw needs to talk to you some more. Then the cw says that the great grandmother passed her homestudy and that they were moving the child right now. It was only this morning that the clinical director informed me that there was some family members interested in taking her, when he came to do his assessment. The cw kept telling me that they couldnt find any family willing to take her but they were still looking.

The investigator said now dont worry we are not taking her because of the allegations, it just happened this way. I really think it stinks that the cw didnt keep me more informed, you cant tell me that she just found out this evening, especially when she told me that the great grandmother had gone out and bought a lot of clothing for the child. Up to yesterday she kept hinting that since the mother was in jail they were probably going to be looking at long term or maybe TPR depending on how long of a sentence the mother received. Well the mother was released on time served yesterday. They never even charged her with the child abandonment charges just the check fraud.

Okay I have made this long enough, my husband is sad that he didnt even get to say goodbye but I guess it is better that it was over quickly and not know for a week or so.

[marthavmommy]

Twin I am so sorry! Oh darn it that cw really sounds like a piece of work. I'm glad to hear that some bios were found that cared enough to take her but it's hard not to worry that 'S' will go back to that mom though. Because chances are she will probably relapse.

I will keep her, and your family in my prayers.

Martha

[withopenarms]

Ugh I so love the system

[mom2GRLC]

Your actually lucky things happened the way they did anyways....usually with an investigation they have to remove ALL foster children first...then investigate which usually takes about a month then....if all turns out unsubstantiated then the child might be returned but there is no gauranteee it just depends on the circumstances. At least the child is with family rather than moving around to other foster homes.

I am sorry.....we've had several spur of the moment calls saying the child is going home or being moved (for other reasons) the most devestating was for an infant girl we had that we were told we would likely adopt....2 months later after a court hearing we got a call saying they were on their way to pick her up and my husband was at work and didn't even get a chance to say goodbye to her... it was very sad. To make things worse we did get to see her 2 weeks later and say goodbye and bring her some photos and extra stuff she had left behind in the rush.....it was a very sad goodbye....as we met her parents and fully realized the the terrible life she was returning to =0(.

[twinflana]

She was not taken because of the investigation at all, it was a coincidence that both happened at the same time. The caseworker was lying to me for a week about there not being any family yet to take her, then all of a sudden the greatgrandmother has passed all the background checks and homestudy and was able to take her right then. I am not sorry that she went to family I am just furious at the way the caseworker handled it.

[stevenstwin]

I guess one way to look at it is that you are probably safer not having a child whose parents have already made false and frivolous allegations against you - there might be nothing to stop them from doing it again, and again. I agree that the casworker didn't handle it well, though!

[hubbyswife]

Yeah I hear ya. It Sux... Our x-FD wasn't taken that quickly but nonetheless we were called thursday evening and told to take FD to daycare the next morning w all her belongings b/c she was being moved w relatives. Which is wonderful, don't get me wrong. But they could of told us, hey we are working on sending the child to relatives. I mean come on they had to know b/c she went to relatives in another country. It's called courtesy. Let's be professional. That was the part that just frustrated me. Not that they have to report every detail to us but come on moving a child should be something that should be disclosed. Just my 2 cents.

[LeighM]

Our fd was taken with just a hour or so notice. The cw never told me they had been given a name of a cousin or had even started the process of a home study. We had court in the morning which my dh attended. He called me and told me to bring M to the office. She was going to go live with ** cousin. Needles to say all I had with her where the clothing she was wearing.

There was nothing I could do. The Judge ordered the move and that was that. So yes it does happen.