[Robin61]

The cw game for the first visit to see the kids in my home I ask her what was the plan because I really don't know a thing. She actually said there are 2 plans in place 3 strikes your out. she is been given another chance if she messes up this time she said its adoption the kids need a permanent place. I gave her my opinion that I feel she is prolonging it because her 17 year old son don't want to lose his siblings. The cw said she got the same impression. I told her we are interested in adoption she said she would put it in there charts. She said she always hopes for reunification but sometimes they are better off in a loving home. ROBIN

[stevenstwin]

Just wondering - if you adopted, would you continue to allow the 17 year old brother to have contact? The reason I ask is because the boy we are hoping to keep permanently is 15. He has little "siblings" (they are actually biologically cousins, but have all been raised together and call the same people mom and dad) aged 2 and 3 who are very likely going to be adopted. We've been warned that he could very well lose all access to them if the adoptive parents aren't willing to allow continued visitation. I've seen him with them at his visits, and it absolutely breaks my heart. He'll miss them so much. He's a little upset that there has been no attempt to place them all together - but NO ONE is likely to take a "sibling group" with that big an age spread, who aren't really siblings, and with an older boy with such emotional damage. And while I want HIM, I'm sure not planning to take 2 toddlers!

[Robin61]

I would allow it. The brother came to the first visit high. I think I would want some time to go by a couple months so the children will not be confused. I want them to have time to bond with us. The poor brother has had a hard life I wouldn't take him from them.
ROBIN