[Txmom001]

It is looking like we are going to be able to adopt our 2fd's and the cw asked if we would consider fostering their older sister. We have asked about her in the past before we got a 3rd baby. But I do not think that we want to adopt the older sibling and we will be moving in 1.5 years, should we foster her knowing we don't want to adopt her or should we tell cw no. We would love to have her in our home but do not feel that we can adopt 3 kids plus hope to have 1 or 2 of our own later. She is in a group home and has two other sibling that will remain there, so would it be worse for her to leave there and then go back to the group home?
I am very confused and I need to give her an answer soon.

[swanzie]

TXmom,

I do not have any good advice for you. All I can say is do what you feel is best for your family. I can feel your pain in this decision and I don't envy you in the least.

I personally hate the idea of splitting up siblings, but in this case it has already been done and I would think moving in and out and all about would be worse on the kid(s).

This decision would pull at my heartstrings, and I can only offer you prayers that you make the best decision for your family.

((((((((HUGS)))))))))))

[Kay-Ray1]

In my opinion I would leave her where she is. I think it would hurt her worse to be moved from the siblings she lives with now and then in a while be moved again. Just my opinion....

[hotspice58]

Don't take her but let her and other siblings have visits with the ones you have.