[MomInAL]

I am just wondering if anyone else out there has dealt with this problem. There is a girl who was a friend of our 15 yo fd back when she was living with her paternal grandmother (this was over 15 months ago). The best we can determine (fd doesn't know for sure) this girl is about 17 or 18 years old. There is one more connection and that is that this girl also dated fd's uncle (birth dad's half brother) who is also about 17-18 years old.

Within 1 week from when bd signed papers for TPR, this girl called our house wanting to talk to fd. FD was grounded from the phone at the time and so we just told her she'd have to call back later.... we just thought it was a friend from school. The very next day my CW called me and asked if I knew who "firstname lastname" was - - and it was this girl. I said that I thought it was a friend from school. CW told me that she just got off the phone with this girls mother and that they want to adopt fd, but not her brothers, because fd and this lady's daughter were "best friends"!

I talked to fd about it and she said that they were "friends" (because she was around and was dating her uncle, but they weren't "best friends" or anything. FD also said she has no interest in going to live with them or being adopted by them. She has called again a couple of times, but fd has told her she was busy and couldn't talk or gave some other excuse and didn't talk to her.

Here's the clincher... this girls parents are foster parents in the county we live in! We are actually licensed as foster parents in the neighboring county (long story) so we don't have dealings with our own county's DHR.

Fast forward to today... it's spring break here ... and she calls to talk to fd again. DH found out about it and he called back and asked to talk to the mother. He asked to not have her daughter call here any more as fd did not want to talk to her and she was disrupting our home with her calls. The mother and DH proceeded to "get into it"... with this woman saying that fd has the choice to be adopted by them and be away from her brothers because we are too strict and not a good home for her!!!!! We don't even know this person! We've never met her, but apparently she knows all about us.

I called CW and told her what was going on and the long story short is my CW contacted this womans DHR people and CW told me if their phone number so much as shows up on my caller ID we are to call police and file harrassment charges. They are placing a restraining order on her and they are not to contact our family in any way.

I just can't believe a foster parent would be trying to cause problems like this for a sibling group of older kids that everyone knows is a hard group to place together for adoption! On a good note, fd (who has been a little bit wavering about the whole adoption process) told me to tell CW that since she is on spring break she just wants her to get the whole adoption "thing" DONE by Friday so it is over with! haha

I hope the rest of the week is calmer than today was!

MomInAL