[punchkin]

case like this. Our fd is 5 months old. We've had her since she was 3 months old. Mother is under age (13). Dad well over 20, and gma allowed it to happen with her blessings. There are charges being bought up for everyone involved. Fd B has been abused. She has to fractures, a 3rd degree burn, and old injuries as well. 2 of the 3 are being bought up on severe child abuse charges. I was told that if convicted, that would call for an instant TPR. Dad will be arrested for statutory rape. Has anyone ever had a case like this. If anyone can give any advice about this situation it will be greatly appreciated. There are so many facts about it that it'a mind boggling. I should also say that mom has also been placed in fcare.

[mom2GRLC]

I haven't!!! But I would be interested to see how things go with the case.

I have heard that if a minor is in fostercare and has a baby also in fostercare they can't terminate her rights until she reaches 18 years, which in your case may mean a very long term foster placement for this little baby. That may not be the rule for your case though.

I've also heard that in most cases they try and keep baby and mother together while in fostercare....so even though that isn't an option right now....maybe once the mom is in counceling and is more stable they might choose to place the two in the same home(if it is best for the baby). So keep your mind open to that possibility as well.

I've learned that you never can really predict what is going to happen in a case because on a moments notice everything can change.

Best of wishes to you and you family...including the new little bundle of joy!!! I hope you get to keep her!!!

[waiting home]

Is bmom one of the abusers? If so, I think they might be able to overstep the 18 year old rule. Yes, dad will go to jail, but probably not for long unless he has a lengthy criminal record. Hopefully gramma will go to jail to for a good stretch of time. How twisted!!!! The baby should have an appointed attorney. I would ask him/her your legal questions as cw's aren't much help.

What a very sad case; that poor little thing. Please keep us posted.

[kforkids]

If bmom is considered one of the abusers the case won't stay open 5 years!
Ask the GAL/ fostercare atty for more specifics!

[punchkin]

Hi everyone, and thanks for responding. Yes, bmom is one of the abusers. They say she's the main abuser. She didn't go into fcare until after conception. My intention upon taking this baby was not to adopt her. However the more I learn about the the horrifics of her case the more I want to keep her safe forever. Bmom is acting out, and still doing things she shouldn't be doing.
gmom is still condoning this behaviour. Even helping her with her escape tatics. Talk about lights on and nobody at home.

[Bug-n-Bears-Mommy]

Although b-mom was not an abuser to Bear, she too was 13 at conception. She was 14 when the both of them were put into foster care. B-father is in prison because of the conception.

In our case, bmom relinquished after the state offered her counseling and legal representation. This way Bear could be adoptied and there was no fear of it being overturned.

Bfather is...get this...entitled to his day in court to petition for custody and parental rights. Let me mention that he is in for 10-life! Anyway, he has a court date next month where CW (has already spoken to the AG) states that TPR will be granted immediately.

The other thing is that when our bmom relinquished, it was conditional that HER mom to be a placement option. I also think there are laws that protect the child and ensure that there is a permanent plan in place for the child within 24 months of placement. I can't see a 13 year-old hanging in there when the option to relinquish is there. Ours was THRILLED...counting down 10 hours until I get to be a kid again, 8 hours...

Hard telling, I wish you the very best. I know it is hard trying to get a 13 year old child to make adult decisions. We have been there!