[cb131]

Our 4 week old fd has had a nov 9th hearing continued to this mon comming .So she had a visit for today & did not get there.I am pretty sure there was some miscommunication somewhere because she has never missed a visit.But along with the father of baby comming up dirty on test,her not having suitable housing & us having her other 2 kids for 10 months now, will the missed visit count against her.

[echobunny89]

I would think it would depend on WHY she missed the visit. I mean, if it was a mis-communication, I wouldn't think that should be held against her. She could have had a problem with transportation, could have been sick ect ect. If she has been faithfully visiting the child, I would highly doubt that she just "blew off" this visit.

[Bug-n-Bears-Mommy]

A missed visit is a missed visit, no matter how you look at it. Bug's mom called the CW at one point and told her that she would be missing 2 visits because she was going out of town. Regardless of the fact that she called the CW, and that she was going out of town, her trip to the beach was 2 strikes against her. Idea being...what would you have dome with your whild if he was in yout custody? You can't just take off when you are receiving services and trying to get your child(ren) back. THEY are your priority. That was my experience with missed vivits. They are mentioned in EVERY evaluation.

[Luvbeingmommy]

I agree with echobunny89, she may have had a good reason. Especially if this is the first visit she has missed.
My boys' bmom started out doing somewhat ok on visits (she never made all in one week, but made some) but then they began to dwindle and now she hasn't seen them since the first week of January. We are hoping to TPR soon, but I really don't know how much missing visits really effects anything. I think it should be significant, but just don't know.

[echobunny89]

In my case, the girls' mother has missed some visits because of transportation issues and these were not held against her. All three of her children are in different homes and she sees them seperately once every other week.


Bio-grandma did call me to let me know that mom is skipping her visit with B this Wednesday so she can drive from Rhode Island to Illinois to spend the holiday weekend with a new boyfriend she met online. B will be devastated because she looks forward to seeing her mother on that once-every-other-week visit. Luckily I will have B for Thanksgiving and the SW is letting her stay with me until Sat. afternoon, so that should numb the pain for her a little. I would think that skipping this visit should be held against her. Who is more important, your child or some man you met on the internet? And bio-mom can't figure out why the state is pressing on with TPR! But I digress!