[echobunny89]

T came for her visit tonight and it went very well. She was able to spend some quality time with her sister for a few hours. It was really hard when it came time for her to go back to the foster mother's and it broke my heart to see the girls hugging and kissing each other and not wanting to let the other go. I told them it was OK and that they would be able to do this again next week. T wanted to know why she couldn't move in NOW and why did she have to do visits when all she wanted was to be in my home.

The SW gave me a quick update when she dropped T off this afternoon. The SW picked up T from school and got the shock of her life when the school principle came up to her and said that T's foster mother had pulled her out of the school and that today was T's last day at the school and they would miss her. Well, this was news to the SW because she didn't know that the FM had pulled T from school and didn't even know that the FM was planning on moving and had already enrolled T in her new school. The SW was furious because the FM is supposed to give the dept. at least 30 days notice before moving to a new residence and she had told no one! The SW said she wasn't sure what was going to happen now but that she did know that the FM is now is some serious do-do and that she is filing a complaint with licensing come Monday.

Keep in mind that the foster mother isn't moving to her new home until after Dec. 1st and that the FM KNOWS that T will be most likely living with me by then. Why yank the child out of her school NOW? When they are not moving for another 2 weeks at least? Why yank her from the school she has known for the last 2 years, so that she can attend a new school for a couple of weeks just to be put into another school when she moves in with me? Can this woman get any nuttier?

The SW also told me today that she did some digging on this FM and turns out she did this to another SW a few years ago. She had a foster daugher whom she tried her hardest to interfere with a reunification with the bio-mom. She did everything possible to sabatoge the reunification.

WHY? WHY? WHY? are they letting this woman get away with it this time? I just don't understand. Sorry to vent, but I am just so frustrated that the T can't move in now! It is going to take years to undo everthing this FM has done to T, never mind undoing the hurt from the original reason she wound up in foster care to begin with.

[kikibrando]

Here, the foster mother would have had the child removed from the home without notice for doing such as thing with no notification to DSS.

[naca]

Oh no That's just horrible! I can't fathom why this FP is acting like this! I agree, they should have just taken T from her custody on the spot and went ahead and placed her with you! ugh!

[kforkids]

wow! I just can't imagine the additional stress that puts on both of you (well, the SW too). I can't believe they haven't changed the plan and put her with you full time! Keep us posted!

[moogiesmom]

I can't believe the agency is letting that fm control them like that???
why don't they get some balls and take the girl from her, she is totally breaking the rules, it's not like they have to have her permission to move her.
I would have to ask sw who is working for who??
Renee