[Robin61]

I am a liitle upset at the moment. I have posted the last 2 weeks about the baby comming to me. I was called yesterday to be 30 miles away to finally pick up the baby boy. I had to be there within the hour. I waited all day for the cw to come to my house to drop off his passport and medical card. I just got a call court was today they are checking out maternal grandparents house he will be leaving tomorrow. I was told in the classes that foster parents will be told all they know. Its not true. I purchased a crib, a double stroller and the cw was saying thats great when she knew it was going to be super short term. I think its great he has family but I am a little ticked off at the moment. Thanks for letting me vent. ROBIN

[waiting home]

After all that, and now he's going?!!! I am so sorry this is happening.

The ol roller coaster thing. It really, really, really stinks. I truly wish I could say something to make it better.

That is really what is so ironic about foster parenting. As parents you are used to being in control, calling the shots, protecting your children. But with foster children, the reality is ALL OF THAT is out of YOUR control.

It's so frustrating to be the "jumping monkey" who does what everybody else says.

I hope you get to spend more time with him. If not, do not give up. This is the ridiculous world of foster care. I know that doesn't help now, but know that you did what you were called to do for him. That's all anyone asks.

[DOUGTONYA]

Well Sorry About Your Luck Robin Hopefully You Will Get Another Placement Soon That Is If You Want One

[DOUGTONYA]

I Have Been Reading Your Posts About This Baby You Were So Excited Sorry That It Was For Such A Short Period Of Time , I'm New To All This My Classes Start Next Week So I Love To Read About Everything That Is Going On So That When It Happens To Me I Will Not Feel Like Why Only Me, Hope Your Feeling Better Thanks For Listening Tonya

[jackiesbooks]

so sorry! can you take the stroller back? I have never found out the whole story at placement. makes me mad, but you had the added expense!

[AmyAnne]

My thoughts are with you Robin and my heart is breaking for you. I'm so sorry this happened to you.

[mrstkg1]

Robin,

I have been a foster parent for about 2 years, but don't have any children right now because I got married and we just finished up putting my husband on the license. We're back up and ready to go and I'm awaiting the calls also. But I have to admit, getting back onto that roller coaster does make me pause......but not for long because I love children so much and have such a maternal calling.

I have been watching your posts and have been waiting with you to get your little guy. I know that we fall in love with children we haven't even met yet.

I too am so upset that this is the outcome. I know you must be so frustrated. How could you not be?

One time I went to the store and bought over $150.00 worth of things in anticipation of getting two little boys. The next day I took it all back (boy, did I get a funny look from the clerk). As it turned out the boys did not come to me. Heartbreak is very common, but so is unspeakable joy, laughter, love and many other very wonderful things.

Try to hang in there, you have a right to be upset, but I'm sure that God has many other children planned for you.

Jami

[mallory4]

I know that hurts, and not just the expense--also the waiting and running around at the last minute...we've been through it too, and in our case, the child we were told would be arriving as an adoptive placement didn't. We still think about him every day because we know he was left in a bad situation. Hopefully, the little guy you had will land in a safe place.

I guess the social workers are in the awkward position that if they really tell us what they need and what will happen, they would find even fewer foster parents willing to work with them. Not many would want or be able to run around getting ready for an infant, wait around for paperwork, etc. for a placement of a few days.

Still, I really think that the only way for the system to recruit and keep really good foster and adoptive families
is to be more honest and upfront, and take the foster parents' feelings, schedules, etc. into account, too.

Good luck and best wishes for you in your ongoing fparenting.

[6furbabies]

I'm sorry you're going through this Robin. It is terrible that they've treated you this way. It's so discouraging.

Keep your head up.

[missw005]

Robin,

That just STINKS!!! To be at their beck and call, all for nothing. I mean, not that a day or two of fcare is nothing, it's just frustrating to go through all of that excitement and waiting to then have heartbreak immediately after.
Hopefully it's because this was not the child meant for you, and you needed to have your home and heart open for the right one(s).
My thoughts are with you.

Sandy

[Robin61]

I was sitting here and about 1:00 this afternoon. I got a knock on the door. It was a social worker from DSS Hi I'm here to pick up little Z . No call I had to run around and gather up his things and I heated a bottle because I knew he would be hungry when he woke up. I took pictures so I can add him to my scrapbook as my second placement. He was a cutie. I guess I have to ask more questions. My Daughter in law is due to have a baby November 14th and wants me in the delivery room so mabey its a good thing I won't be as tied down when she goes into labor. Who am I kidding if I got a call tomorrow I would say yes LOL. I love being a foster mom I just needed a vent. Thanks for listening.

ROBIN