[IowaGirl515]

I'm now officially childless... and I didn't realize it'd hurt this bad.

[momofmykids]

((((Hugs))))

I thought they were leaving the younger sister???? I've been out of sorts (in-laws visiting) and haven't seen any of your threads.

It does hurt and I'm so sorry for you. You were a great mommy to those girls!

[Kelly Rae]

I'm so sorry for the sorrow and grief this must be causing. Sending prayers and hugs!

[hubbyswife]

Sorry to hear that.... Did u guys decide to take a break, or will u be accepting placements??? I thought u were keeping the younger sister, what happened??

[BeckyTeehee]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Just know you are where and that child is where he or she is supposed to be right now. You'll get your child!!!! I just know you will. Keep the faith!!!

Love and thoughts to you....

[mab_123]

Sorry for your loss. It will get better in time.

[IowaGirl515]

Originally Posted by hubbyswife

Sorry to hear that.... Did u guys decide to take a break, or will u be accepting placements??? I thought u were keeping the younger sister, what happened??

There was space in the therapeutic home for J and they could provide for the safety of J. Ultimately, the best decision by everyone was to keep them together if possible while S gets the help she so desparately needs.

DHS isn't too happy with us at the moment.. we were going to do a long transition until she attacked my dog on Sunday night and have two privacy incidents with her sister in the bathroom. I could not and would not jeopardize J's safety for the sake of a long transition. We decided to stick by the 14 day notice we gave. That being said, it'll probably be awhile before we're called because they were "extremely disappointed".

DH and I have already decided to take a break for a few weeks... our friend who's a foster care class teacher keeps assuring us that this placement wasn't one DHS should have offered us as 1st timers and that they aren't all this stressful. Right now, we're just burnt out and need time to regroup. If we do decide to take another placement, I think we'll limit it to one for awhile... but we may decide we're done. We'll see what the winds bring...

[Brookiebear]

Iowa,
I'm so sorry. I can't imagine how hard this part must be. I really believe that you laid aside your own emotions and did what was absolutely best for the girls. I really admire you for that. I hope that once we become foster parents I will be able to act so selflessly. You are in our prayers.
~B

[crick]

So sorry this wasn't the placement for you. ((HUGS))

I think your friend is right though. With all the issues the girls had, and were known issues, I think the sw's made the wrong decision placing them with you. I'm not saying 1st time parents can't deal with a sibling group etc., but it does seem to me that the girls needed a theraputic home to begin with and the sw should have done that right off the bat.

Take some time to grieve and know that in the short time you had them, you did do more for them than they probably ever had before. That does make a difference!

Crick

[melliemoo]

I'm sure your heart must be breaking. You did an excellent job with these girls (from all my lurking) and you did the right thing for them. I'm sorry about the heartache. A break sounds like a good plan for now.

Melissa =)

[IowaGirl515]

Originally Posted by crick

With all the issues the girls had, and were known issues, I think the sw's made the wrong decision placing them with you...Take some time to grieve and know that in the short time you had them, you did do more for them than they probably ever had before. That does make a difference!

Thanks.. Just to clarify, they were an emergency placement that were removed from the home for the very first time. No one really knew anything about them.

I definitely think it was a wrong decision was putting an emergency placement where who knows what can happen with newbies. BUT live and learn.

We were blessed for three months by a wonderful little 3 yr old who my heart is aching for right now. That makes all the trouble we had with the 6 yr old almost worth it...

No matter how much we wanted to keep her, it was best for her to remain with her sister.

[shycar]

Iowa Im soo sorry. I know how hard all this is. You have done great job on these girls. Doing emergency is hard, becouse you never know what you are going to get. I will keep you in my prayers and the girls too. Im very glad to hear that girls can stay together. That is soo important for them. My girl were split up for three months and the 4 yr old suffer so much becouse of it. But Im happy to say that they got reunited on Sunday here at my home and they are soo happy.

[Cobb]

I know there is nothing I can say that will help. Just wanted to send you ((((HUGS)))) and let you know you're in my thoughts.

[kforkids]

Hi,
Please know that you are being thought of and prayed for. I know how hard it is to go through this, even knowing this placement- these girls weren't the ones for you.