[Bug-n-Bears-Mommy]

I know that our boys have SO many names that they will be in 4th grade before they are able to learn to write all of them. I think their mothers wanted a good combination of both their's and the father's name. Made even worse when our oldest's mother already has a hyphenated name.

Since we have come to know and love them as their first names, we are thinking we will only change their middle names (my father's name for the oldest and my husband's for the youngest...both passed away while we were still battling infertility) then of course they will have our last names.

I know there are many reasons for changing and many for keeping their given names. I was just curious what other's thoughts are on the subject.

[GKMILLEROF9]

hi, my name is glenda- we have adopted 3 kids so far and will adopt thier 2 sib. brothers. the one boy we changed his name completely. it was not suited to our family. the other 2 we left alone. now the 2 we are going to adopt, the 2yr. old will get a new middle name and the 4mon. old will get a new first name as I don't like his.
I don't see anything wrong with changing a childs name when you adopt. my oldest is 7 and wanted us to change hers and when I asked her if she would like it to be renee she said yes without realizing that was her middle name. but that did'nt stick long and we went back to calling her by her first name. I think the decision should be the adoptive parents and if the child is old enough to understand to help decide. sounds like you have your hands full as well good-luck