[Bug-n-Bears-Mommy]

We are getting ready for our goodbye visit with our youngest baby. I was just wondering if anyone could share with me what...if anything...you did for the b-mom. I have s few ideas. I just want to assure her that she has made a good decision. (maybe I should say that she just turned 15) I don't know if that makes a difference.

Anyway, any ideas would be nice. We just got photos done and I am going to frame and give her one...but other than that?? Is there anything that is expected?

[Peggy]

Have a disposable camera, so she, or whoever is moderating the visit can take pictures of her with her baby. I was not involved with my daughter's good-bye visit. BUt the only picture of her birthmom is from the visit. (and she was 8).

[bumpkin]

At my twins good bye visit (they were 1) I called the cw the day before to ask what would happen etc... she told me we would go into a room and it was up to me whether DH and I wanted to stay (of course we did the twins never even visited with her). I told her that if I felt comfortable, at the end of the visit for the last 10 minutes I would leave (cw to stay) and bmom could have some private time, which we did. CW took some pictures, and I brought a disposable camera (bmom did not) to giver bmom.

It was more awkward than anything else. I did bring some pictures for her (although she did NOT bring the hospital pictures for them that I asked). The twins, being 1 entertained and kept us busy which was good.

I'd say, just be yourself.... know how long the meeting is going to be and you will be fine.

Will she bring her mother or anyone for support, you might want to think of how it will be between you and her mother if so. Just a thought.

Good luck and let us know how it goes.