[hubbyswife]

Well my fs (he's 5) started having phone calls w bmom/bdad for about 2mths now and his behavior has changed. We r having problems w lying, not wiping his bottom at all after pooping so it gets everywhere (if he would try that would be something else but he doesn't try at all & we've showed him many many times how to wipe), him poking or hitting FD (he use to be helpful w her).... the newest is that he peed on the shower door instead of peeing in the toilet (he wasn't taking a shower either).... He said that he forgot that peeing on the shower door was gross.... he has also said that he forgot that lying was bad.... We know he's confused and we are trying to seek therapy for him thru sw.... which we've been waiting for months on that..... so in the meantime what can we do about the lying and pooping/peeing problem?? The hitting of FD we watch him and her like hawks if they are close by each other... He's not having problems at school and he's seems like an angel when we visit my parents or dh's parents and of course when sw visits.....

[Kate1129]

We had some of the same issues with out fs. I found that he didn't like me watching him go to the potty. So any time we went in there I went with. It stopped the peeing on the floor real fast and I was there to make sure he was wiping.


So the only suggestion I have is to go with him in the bathroom!

[jackiesbooks]

My fs was peeing in the corner (3 inches away from toilet). I made him clean it up - he stopped. I also went into the Bathroom right after him to check.

[Zoe_B]

My 4 year old still refuses to wipe himself. He'll just sit on the toilet and yell until I get in there :::sigh:::

[squeek]

We had a problem with our FS, except he was 9. He never, never, ever wiped after using the bathroom. Made for some really nasty underpants. It was suggested by some fellow posters here that I make him wash his own underpants. He did it twice and since then he's has whitie-whites!

The other suggestion is be very clear with his social worker that his behavior has changed drastically since the phone calls began. You may want to consider supervised phone calls.

The last suggestions is documentation. Take photos if necessary. I actually did this with our FS when he hid a pair of dirty underpants outside. When I found them I photographed it and where they were and made the social worker very aware of what happened.

[hubbyswife]

He has supervised calls already and we did the wash your own underwear too but back a few months ago.... Maybe we'll start that again b/c it seemed to work somewhat last time... couldn't hurt right?? We've let his sw worker know about his behavior and we leave her messages...... we've been going in right after he goes either way and if pees anywhere it's not suppose to be he gets to clean it..... w supervision of course....

I guess it sounds like we've been doing what others have been doing.... guess we'll just keeping being consistent, the sad thing is kids at school are starting to make fun of him..... which I guess may help in getting him to the potty...which is one way I wouldn't like him to experience but we're doing all we can at home....

Thanks a bunch for responding!!