[wish41more]

We're getting a placement tomorrow evening. He'll have his 12 month hearing in Nov and the sw is recommending tpr. YAY!!! Just one thing.........she told us we should start calling him by a different name bc his bio fam lives in our town and bdad is violent. He is 8 months old. I'm probably going to call him by his first name and a new middle name together for a couple weeks so he's less confused, then eventually drop his "old" first name but still keep it his legal name if we adopt him.
What do you think? Have you had to do this and how did your child(ren) react to it? I feel bad to all of a sudden changing his name.
Other than that, we are still grieving the loss of our 1st placement last Fri but we're totally excited to have another baby in the house!

[bumpkin]

I'm glad you have a new one to fill your heart.

I think you are doing the name change just right, in public, maybe just use a term of enderment - sweety or something like that. . . . not like the bios wouldn't know him to see him. I think I'd be cautious if the bios lived in my town.

Have a great time with him.

[wish41more]

Thanks for replying! He's here. He's so good! I thought the adjustment would've been stressfull on him but so far so good. He's soooo adorable! He seems to be responding to his "new" name too!

[tybeemarie]

Congratulations on your baby boy! You sound so elated. It's sweet to see. Let us know how things go with the little one!

[Kate1129]

We are changing both of our children's names for saftey. Our concern comes when the adoption is final, with the same name the bfamily can still track them. Our girl is still young enough that she'll not notice the difference. We are calling her by her first name then the name we'll use like

Cheyenne-Emily. Since Emily will be her new name. For our foster son, we are going to still call him Jake, but his name on paper will be Jackson. Unless you plan on leaving town, it wouldn't be hard to find them at school if they have the same name. We are also going to be changing SSN#'s too, the family has some issues with honesty and has their number's.

If the SW is reccomending a name change, I'd take it VERY seriously!!!