[Kyle's Godmom]

Hi I just became a foster mother to my godson. We've had him for almost 30 days. We are becoming frusterated with the people involved who keep telling us their goal is for Kyle to go home but they act like that's not what they really want. I'm so stressed because we know Kyle is better off with his parents because they are just young and made a mistake. How can I get my point accross that we feel like this?

[momofmykids]

I'm assuming that Kyle is in state custody and that you are a state foster parent? If so, you don't really have any say as to when he goes home. As a matter of fact, because you are so close to the family (I'm guessing since you're the godmother?), the state would see it as you have a biased opinion.

The best thing to do is to sit back and let the parents work their plan laid out for them by the state. It's not easy, but determined parents can do it.

[hubbyswife]

Exactly what momofmykids said. Let the parents work their treatment plan. It isn't up to you to make that decision whether the child should or shouldn't go home. Keep that to yourself.

If the child is in state's custody then you shouldn't be having any communication w the bparents. Unless of course the sw says it's okay. I know our sw told us that if they moved our fd to grandma's, bmom can't call or visit w fd, it's like how bmom can't visit or call to our home.

Good luck w everything....

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