[Noel_71]

Ok, I know I am being impatient, but it's SOOOOOOO Hard to wait

I got another call two weeks ago and she told me she put our name in for this child but then I didn't hear back from her...

I called her back and said "well?" she said "oh... I forgot to call you back and tell you didn't I." *sigh* That's so unnerving...

I just sit here wondering when the phone is going to ring, I check and make sure the phone is working a lot now to, has anyone else picked up their phone 17 times during the day to make sure it has a tone? *haha* I'm getting pretty pathetic here...

Just thought I would share my frustrations here....

Sitting on pins and needles,
Noel

[Kate1129]

I hear ya!! It's so hard to sit and wait!!!

We waited about 6 months for our first call. It was terrible!!! We then had our foster children for almost 7 months. Now they are gone and we are waiting for another call!!


Waiting with you!!

[heatherintx]

The shelter we go through has a specific person assigned to match families. We called her and let her know that we had finished PRIDE and our homestudy and we waiting for our kids. She called the next day after we were licensed with a sibling group of two. She didn't have any info but we said yes we were interested. Well, I got all excited and they placed the boys somewhere else. I just have to think that God had the right group in mind for us. She called back two days later and placed a sibling group of two boys. It will happen, but it was explained to me that if you are foster/adopt at least where we are that it takes longer than just straight foster care.

Heather

[cubbiegirl]

I'm waiting too! I don't want to wait anymore! (And I just started "officially" waiting.

[Kate1129]

I wish we had a specific SW!!! We don't it can be any worker in any of our surrounding counties. I don't like that, I want someone to bother

[JessicaBaker]

We're not approved yet (will finish classes on May 7), but I too am afraid of the waiting. It's already been so long that I've been waiting to care for a child. However, I think when I am impatient about waiting I will tell myself, "Isn't it good that there isn't a family falling apart right now so that I can take care of the children?"
I mean, every time a child comes into care it's a failure of a family, which isn't something I should hope for. Don't know that this will help or not, maybe just give some perspective.

I hear you though, waiting is darn hard!

[sfbaymom2000]

We've had our dd four months, and although it has certainly been challenging, I still tell people that waiting to be matched with her was by far the hardest part. Every time the phone rang, I thought, "Is this it?" I even joked to my husband that some day we would look back and realize how impatient we were being (he got very frustrated waiting). As it turned out, from application to placement took 8 months...less than a pregancy! I know many people wait a lot longer than that, and my heart goes out to them because I know how hard it is.

I got so obsessed that I was scouring the on-line listings of waiting kids, and had just started researching international adoption seriously the day before we got the call.

Jessica - I understand your point, and how remembering that your good fortune will be someone else's heartbreak might make the waiting easier. But don't let yourself feel guilty. My friend and I were both feeling like that...like we were hoping for someone (a birth family) to fail. But another friend pointed out that these kids will need homes regardless of what I am hoping for or wanting. It is just good that there are families (like all of us) here waiting for them.

For all of you that are waiting, I would TRULY encourage you to enjoy and take advantage of this time you have before placement. Pamper yourself and spend time with your spoue/partner and any kids you have already. I wish DH and I had taken a trip before M arrived, and I wish I had spent those hours with C (bio daughter) rather than searching the on-line listings of waiting children. Good luck to you!

[wwcpl]

I know exactly how you feel! We moved right in the middle of our homestudy! Never had we moved and just as we got the fire inspection we found a new house a hour away. So we had to basically start all over. Lucky for us we have a Wonderful Caseworker that helped us through it all. We got our sibling group one week after we were approved. I thought that call was never going to come and now..... OH BOY! They are a hand full! We have a 2 yr old boy and a 4 yr old girl. They are really good kids. Just not very much sturcture. We have had them 3months and we have loved them from the first day we got them. They should go home one day but until then we get to love them and teach them right and wrong.
Good luck and just know your wait will end soon.....

[Noel_71]

Thanks guys for posting and letting me know that I'm not the only one that has slight heart failure everytime the phone rings.


Also.... 8 MONTHS? I don't know if I can last eight months... I thought 2 months has been a long time, but 8??? 8??? *sigh*

At least the wait for me won't be soooo bad here in a few weeks when my other children get out of school for the summer. The summer always seems to fly by way to quickly.

Take care everyone,
Noel

[missw005]

[quote=Noel_71]
Also.... 8 MONTHS? I don't know if I can last eight months... I thought 2 months has been a long time, but 8??? 8??? *sigh*
/QUOTE]

Noel - you're freaked out about 8 months? Try SEVEN YEARS!!!!!
Though I will admit my second handsome boy was only 6 months..... (after a year - my SW/agency doesn't allow adoptive placements until a year has passed from the last child's placement)

And I'm in WAITING CHILDREN!!!!! It's just insane. Don't get me started!

Waiting does suck, though (you can tell I work in a high school) - I've been trying for over a year to get my 3rd and/or 4th child and it's been reaaaaaaly loooong. (sigh)

Like my Grandma used to say, "what doesn't kill you will make you stronger...."

Your sister in waiting.....

Sandy

[sfbaymom2000]

missw005 - you really waited 7 years for your first son? Don't get me wrong, but I would have given up long before that!

Noel - have you been waiting two months since you applied, or since you finished your homestudy. I meant the whol process, including homestudy, took eight months before we were matched. Looking back, I think that was pretty good. I have a friend that waited two years from application to placement. I assume you are doing fost/adopt? If you are just foster, you should get placements sooner. Anyway, good luck!

[missw005]

sfbaymom-
My mother has always said I was unnaturally stubborn!
Sandy

[wish41more]

We just got our liscence Friday 4/22. I really didn't think I would feel any different from when we were waiting to be approved. Well, I was wrong. Every single time the phone rings I think' this is it!'
:-/ I'm afraid we have a long way to go.

[kaylasmom]

Want to know who to bug? Well when we became fosterparents it didnt take long to gat a placement, in fact we gat a few calls i turned down. Then we moved into a larger home, opened 2 more spots and it took 3 weeks befor our phone rang with a # i know was a sw. I couldn't belive it took so long. But to tell you who to call, I would call my licining worker, she can send out e-mails to all the sw, telling them you have an opening. If you call her enough she will continue to send out e-mails until you get a placement..I do belive its true, fostercare, and foster/adopt my be different, we just do fostercare. Good luck and i hope your phone rings soon





Bio mom to 2
Fostermom to 4

[Noel_71]

Ok technically the whole process has been going on since Oct. 2004 and we are finally lisenced.

The homestudy was complete two months ago.

So I guess all in all it has been almost 8 months.

I have to stop myself everyday from calling our placement person at the agency. I always think, "hrmmm, I will just give her a "quick" call to see if anything has popped up and she forgot about me." Then I think "how stupid Noel, what are you going to say to her?" I don't want to bug her but omg the wait is horrible, some days are worse LIKE TODAY!!
The weather is bad, my chores are all done, I have made out next weeks grocery list already... I'm running out of things to keep me busy *haha*

I guess there isn't anything else to do but WAIT...