[Redangel]

I am a foster mother, I have 3 kids in my home a son who was a fc in whom we have since adopted, and a fd in whom we are in the process of adopting, and My niece who was put in a foster home in Januray due to sexal abuse by step dad.

My niece's cw is different than any I have dealt with before. She has been threating to pull my niece because I said that she was medicaly negected and was having hearing loss do to scaring in her ears from untreated ear infections (Dr. told me at her appt.) Well the word medical neg. she said was a false statement and she could remove her from my home, and by also saying that I have a attuide about her mom that is damaging my niece. I was very defensive I said it loosly but I do have poof that she is 8 never been to a denist and has a cavity in her perment teeth that she has had for less than a year, and can prove the untreated ear infections. And her mother and I have always gotton along even threw really hard times, and I would never speak ill of her in front of her child or even if there was a risk that he would hear it.

Anyways at todays visit in front of her mom the cw ask my niece if my husband or my 4yr fd do seceret touching to her. My niece told her no! and if they where she wouldnt have to be asked that she would tell.

Now I was under the impression that a child avocate center are the ones who have to ask direct questions like that and they need to be video taped. I could be wrong but if somone knows more about this please let me know. We have nothing to hide so they can ask her anything, i just found it odd.

Also she is from another county that is where the case is, and thank god we have a wonderful cps here and they have been bending over backwards to help me with this cw.

[mom2GRLC]

That is very strange that she would come down on you so hard and also ask those kinds of questions in that sort of situation.

If the doctor suspected hearing loss due to neglect i would have him write up a report that can be put in the childs file, and given to the social worker. It is important information...and usually the social workers will be happy that you have such an interest in the child and are trying to get them the help they need.

My guess is maybe the mom is angry with you for some reason and has expressed her concerns with the social worker that you have negative feeling against her...and my be expressing that in front of the her child. Maybe that is why she acted the way she did when you told her about your concerns.

If you have problems with the social worker you can always go to her supervisior and let her know what the problem is.

Also, talk to the childs attorney personally and let them know your conerns. Make sure you make it to court so you can testify about what your concerns are...and having proof from the doctor/dentist will be important as well.

[Redangel]

Thanks for the reply. Yes, Mom is angry, she doesnt belive her daughter about the sexual abuse. And she feels that she is being rewarded by lieing about it by getting to live at my house. When she had her visted yesturday the cw wanted us to all to sit down and explain to us what was going to happen next week. My niece will being having a pshyc evel. Well mom was sobbing and very upset, we grabbed hands then when cw was done we grabbed each other and hugged and kissed. I told her to hang in there and that we love her. I feel like this case worker is trying to build a wedge between us, which is unfortanite for my niece. Mom also has expressed not wanting my niece back. I am hoping that we can gaurdingship and not deal with caseworker any more and work this out with in the family. I am working on getting docatation of untreated infections, but I cant get into the denist til May, but I know mom cant prove that she has ever been to a denist. This poor child has been threw so much, I just hate seeing this cw make it worse. in all the years I have been doing this I have never experinced a worker like this, hopfully she will go away soon before she trys to disrupt my niece's life even more.