[jules74]

I had a lady staying with me and I was helping her while she was PG. She was was a friend of mine. Well, she has a total of 6 children 8,5,4,3,2 and 5 months. She is 24 and has been on drugs for YEARS. Her 8yr old lives with her grandma and the 5,4 and 3 are in state custody the 2 yr old is living with another friend of hers and the 5 month old lives with mom. So I was there the moment this baby came into the world I took care of her from birth...baby tested positive for Cocaine at birth and the county I live in would not remove baby cause they do not have the funds. So when baby was born she ws placed in ICU with a collapsed lung and under weight, she stayed there for 14 days and she came home with me and mom. Mom was out messing around with men 3 DAYS !!! after giving birth..........I took care of ALLLLL of baby nad moms needs. Then I found out mom had sex with 2 15 yr old boys and a 17 yr old. So I comfronted her about it and she started a fight. She moved out that day. And I have yet to see baby since. I know she moved to a differant county so I called that county and reported all that I knew and before they could investigate she moved again.thats 5 homes since baby was born 9/13/04. And baby is suppose to go to high-risk doctor due to the drugs and her birth weight mom is not taking her. So i called the new county that mom lives in and reported her there also.......I havent heard anything yet........But what i want to know is there anything else I can do to get this baby back in my home???? I took her to all of her doctor app. and got up with her every 3 hours when she came home. Me and baby was VERY attached !!!! So what else can I do...........I still have all of her baby clothes, formula, and her crib is still sitting just like it was when mom took off......I miss her so much.......PLEASE ANYONE THAT CAN HELP PLEASE EMAIL ME OR SOMETHING. I live in anderson county Tennessee and I am a foster parent already.I don't have any kids right now. Our house burned so we are renting till we can rebuild (no insurance) So I have put fostering off for awhile, but Autumn is differant she really needs some help right now......I love her as if she was my own. Please someone help me.


Julia ldyjewels30@comcast.net
MSN same as above

[msheartofgold]

By any chance did you let any one know at Dhs your interest in the child, I don't know why they let mom leave the hospital if she already had children placed in the system. I really don't know what to do in this case but keep in touch with county to see what they say. I guess for the most part hope mom gets caught so maybe she can get some help for her and the baby.

Good Luck sorry I could not be of much help

[jules74]

Yes I have told all 3 countys that she has lived in that I want baby back with me. I guess I will hound tham and keep in touch till they finaly do something. I called them yesterday and they said that they are working on it. They allowed her to keep baby because she said she would stay with me and because the county I live in said they didnt have the funding right now to pay a foster family to keep baby. They are only accepting severly abused children. The rest of the refferals they get...........they are " putting services" in the home LOL what a joke Services............anyway............thanks for your reply...I will keep you updated.............



JUlia

[jules74]

The stupid regional manager called me yesterday about my letter to the commisioner. She stated that 'EVERYONE HAD BEEN MADE AWARE THAT I WAS A PLACEMENT HOME FOR AUTUMN" and " THAT THEY ARE KEEPING A CLOSE EYE ON MOTHER AND BABY" so they will contacted "IF" Autumn comes into custody.
I explained the warrents and her possible jail time and ask what would happen to Autumn then............I was told very rudely............"That arent sure how I got that info and dont want to know, but I was putting them in a really bad situation and I should not call back with these kinds of questions" and If I have any more complaints or concerns that I can call Central Intake and they would take it from there. I HATE THE STUPID SYSTEM. When Autumn grows up to be just like her mother and they have to intervene with her kids they should blame themselves.........for not getting her out as a child and giving her a chance to be differant.

I refuse to give up......If I have to make a referrel everyday....and email commisioner everyday.....I will not quit!!!!!!!!

You guys just be in heavy prayer about this, because I cant promise what I would If I ran into mom right now. A part of me wants to ring her little neck the other wants to make friends just to get Autumn back......then there is still that part of me that feels sorry for mom because she is the way she was raised. I am so...........................messed up in the head right now.

Julia

[jules74]

Oh boy ........its on now I just received a call from the DCS Commisioner........and she is going to pull file and see why BABY has not already been taken. PRAY PRAY PRAY.......said she will call me back within a hour !!!!!!!!! Oh wow I am trying so hard not to get to excited here......but I cant help it. The thought that my sweet angel baby would come home has my stomach in knots and my heart flipping!!!!!! So I will let you know what I hear....
Julia

[AMom2Two]

(((Julia)))

This is a very sad situation. I'll keep you in my prayers. I hope they find the mother and child and I hope that you get custody of the child. Everyone deserves the chance to have a stable and loving foundation. It is a shame that the mother is dragging this little baby around with her instead of allowing the child to have what she did not have, a loving and stable home.

My heart goes out to everyone, but especially to you and the little baby. I'm glad you are fighting for her. I'm glad someone is fighting for her. Good luck and please keep us posted. That baby is lucky to have you in her corner. Be brave and strong. We're here for you.
Hugs,

[jolean12]

I am so glad that you got some good news today. It has been an hour and now I am anxiously waiting to hear that you got the call you are waiting for. I am praying that Autumn will be safe soon.

[jules74]

I did not receive that call back as I was told I would. But I received a very short email that said bear with me I am working on it Kirk Lane.......he is the commisioners Assistant. So maybe I will hear tomorrow........Thanks for your love and prayers and don't stop now..........you are being heard .


Julia

[yanknrebel]

Did you mean "Lane Simpson"? I know that Commissioner Miller has a exec assistant named Lane Simpson that she seems to give all her cases to, to follow personally to and he reports back to her. I have found Commissioner a HUGE help to me. THat was EXACTLY what you should have done, if you got no help from DCS. Comissioner Miller will be the first one to tell you that she is "cleaning house" and still has LOTS to do. SInce she has become Commissioner, things have been going along alot FASTER in TN DCS. I, personally, am very happy with her accomplishments and in getting things to move along faster. Good luck with finding the baby. If she into drugs, SHe will become well known to the county officials and police . Don't be surprised if you get a call saying she is in jail in one ofthe counties and DCS of another county has the child. Just keep letting it be known that you have a "bond" and a history with this child, as well are an approved foster home. If she does come into custody and the county has your name and info, it will make their search for an approved home, a no brainer. Good luck!!!

[jules74]

No it was Kirk Lane he is the regional guy. Thank you for your response. I hope that all goes well. Mom is suppose to be issued 3 warrents after Feb 21st so lets hope that Autumn doesnt get lost in system. I am waiting again....today for a call back.



Julia

[jolean12]

I am still praying that your call comes in. Autumn is very lucky to have you fighting in her corner.

[reandruss]

I'm dying here--What happened? I sure hope little Autumn is safe! "The system" can make you so mad sometimes. With the warrant and your foster home license you think this would be a "no brainer."


Best wishes!

[jules74]

Well Guys DCS has failed me again !!!!!!!!!!!!! said that there is nothing they can do............no proof of abuse. Now the mother is being arrested today and her boyfriends mother will have Autumn . Hoping MAYBE!!!! that they will step in at this point. Mother has 3 driving on suspended charges and 3 failure to appears. Her bonds are set at $500.00, $400.00, and $350.00. When she goes to jail she will be there awhile. She doesnt ahve the money to get out. And nobody to get her out !!!!! Now what will happen to Autumn I dont know. They said if mother makes arrangements for Autumn then they cant very well do anything unless its not a good enviroment. SO PULLING MY FREAKIN HAIR OUT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I thought her going to jail was the answer guess I was wrong. If this doesnt work next week I am going to file a full blown Petion for custody !!!!!!!!! And I will not stop till I win !!!!!!!

Thank you for all of your concern. GOD BLESS YOU ALL!!!

[jolean12]

I am so sorry for your dilema I would be were you are right now and file on my own.
It is amazing to me how some parents get away with so much and others get there kids taken right away. Sometimes I think it is based on what kind of mood the SW investigating is in.

[LadyBugz]

Just an idea, but what about making friends with the bf's mom? If Autumn's mom is in jail, and you make friends with bf's mom and see if she isn't really wanting the role of mother, you could kindly offer to bring Autumn to your house where she will get all the medical care she needs. Maybe just give a short time frame like "until she's out of jail." As you have all the supplies still around from when she was there before. Don't sound like you are planning on keeping her forever. Say you are open to visits often, in your house, at a park (supervised, but don't say that). Then you'll have her in your custody and can petition and stand a chance.

Just my initial thought.