[Howdy]

My foster daughter is transitioning next week to a kinship placement. Just before her visit with her bparents yesterday (the one before the last visit, next week will be the last visit) she got bad stomach pains.
The pains continued all evening and night, and she still has them today. We tried herbal tea, pepto bismal, and TUMs, and milk, but none of those helped.
I called her therapist's office this morning and the people that answered (the intake people) said it was normal and that she needs extra TLC and that tranquilizers weren't appropriate. They recommended I tell the school to also provide extra TLC and to call the therapist. I called the school, but they didn't sound very sympathetic, they said they'd be extra nice to her and let the teacher know, but I didn't get the feeling that they feel like they need to make any special effort to provide comfort during the day.
I feel really bad for my fd and if it were me I'd want something to make me feel better. Just holding a kid's hand and leaving them to tough it out doesn't seem kind or caring.
Is there a tranq that would be appropriate for an 8 yr old child? Has anyone had this problem and what did you do?

[szypzz]

Just a thought, but would she feel less stressed if you kept her home for a day? Since she's only 8 and if the school isn't going to be as helpful as you like, could you let her stay home for the day and give her the extra TLC she needs? Maybe it wouldn't be helpful or practical in your situation, but I think that's what I'd do. Maybe the extra attention will be all she needs.

[Howdy]

I wish I could stay home with her, I'm sure you are right and it would help. But, I'm almost out of vacation, this foster child has used up so much more than my previous fd, because of a ton of dental work, various doctor appts, therapy appts, and, in the beginning, 2 per week visits with parents.

Now I have only 1 and a half days of vacation left, and I can't count on not needing to use it for her for other reasons before she leaves next week.

Last night when I mentioned that next week is the last time she'll be seeing her mom until she is grown up, it seemed to break through what I guess was denial (because I'm sure she has been told all through placement about the lack of progress of her parents and that she might/probably not go back to live with them, and next week she is moving to a kinship placement out-of-state, though termination won't be for another couple months) because she seemed to flow through all the stages of grief in a 4 hour marathon emotional evening. And consequently I had to take a half a day off this morning because I wanted to let her get at least some sleep, poor thing.

[szypzz]

Good luck to you and your f/d. I hope that she is able to accept the changes in her life and move forward. I don't know what else to say except hang in there.