[Sylvester]

A couple of months ago we were told that we did not qualify for adoption through the agency we had been foster parenting through. We were told this by their adoption worker, so we figured that the information was CORRECT!!!! We got a call on Friday from the director of the agency, wanting to know if we were interested in twin boys that we in need of an adoptive home. We were thinking that they had us confused with someone else. When we got to the bottom of it she told us we are a family that they enjoy working with and we are able to adopt through them!!! The twin boys are newborns still in the hospital, one of them has some medical problems.
All weekend I was so excited and could not help myself in wandering what if.... Well, fast forward to Monday. We call the agency bright and early. One of the twins needs a kidney transpant! We are in no way able to care for child with that kind of medical problem. Then we find out about a 1 year old. Call his worker he is failure to thrive, functioning on a three month old level. I don't know if I can handle this. We have adopted two children before and the process to do an infant adoption was not this painful. Is it me getting too excited too soon? My emotions seem to be on a roller coaster!! What also angers me is we have told the agency what we want and what we can handle yet we get calls for all kinds of kids. I am at the point once and for all to hang it up and walk away. I don't think I can go throuh this any longer!! Sorry for the long post, I needed to vent!!!!!!!!!!!

[tlc4kidz]

Sylvester,
Just wondering if they were not going ahead with considering you for the twins or if that was your decision? I'm a nurse, so I know medical things probably freak me out less than some people, but if you truly had your heart set on the twins you should do a little more research on kidney transplants. You would not just be turned loose with a critically ill child...and depending on the involvement we can live a normal healthy life with one kidney.

You would be taught about the level of care and probably have a home health nurse come in for a while to monitor how things are going. I would guess you would also spend some time at the hospital learning about caring for him.

Obviously you know your situation much better than I, but just wanted to give you some encouragement. I think it may be a blessing knowing what your up against from the start. With so many of the kids in care with FAS or drug exposure (including mine) we may not see our challenges for years to come.

[Sylvester]

It was our decision not to take the twins. Our youngest is three, so I thought it would be too much. All of his doctors and care is being performed at a hospital an hour and a half from here, my daughters are involved in activities, school will be starting soon, and we have no family here. I can't put my kids on the back burner. I pray that they can find a family for the two of them.

[tlc4kidz]

Thanks for clarifying! That would be ALOT, especially with a 3yo and the other newborn. I wasn't trying to say you should've gone ahead, just offer that of all the medical things that could be wrong that would be one I would be most open to.

I understand your discouragement...our first call was for a 3yo with submersion burns that required catheterization to urinate. I had to say no because it would not have been best for my kids. I respect you for looking after your existing family first. If you've had 2 calls in less than a week I bet the perfect placement is just around the corner!