[mysterybks]

Hi, We have completed our classes and our home visits. Now awaiting approval. I think this has to be the hardest part of the process so far. They've mentioned a sibling group of 4 African American kids that we are interested in. Don't know much. Can't wait to find out more!! I'm glad to find a place where others are going through the same things. I have been keeping in touch with others from our class. I'm going to tell them about this site, too! I look forward to making some friendships here and to learn more about adopting transracially from foster care. Thanks in advance!

[vpparents]

Hi Dawn: Congrats on getting this far in the process. It is a lot of work, but all worth it.

We've been fostering for 2 1/2 years now and are in the process of adopting a transracial sib group of three. The hardest part of the whole process is the uncertainty of it all. In our state, up through six months after the "official" adoption a family member could come forward and still be considered to adopt the kids. It would tear my heart out at this point. I am very thankful for my faith in the Lord....that is the only thing keeping me from worrying myself to death!

The kids are definitely worth it, though. Foster care/adoption is VERY hard on them. And as I tell people, I chose to do this and accept the pain and heartache, they did not!

Hang in there and God speed on your approval and eventual placements.

Jackie

[joskimo]

we are looking to adopt through fc as well. We aren't foster parents per se but we would foster for 6 months for the adoption to be settled. All of this is hypothetical at this point, we're waiting for the last little signature. It's such a long road and there's been so many waits [our homestudy writer had a family emergency and had to leave state....twice....for a month each time!!!!] I thought we'd be listed by May but I think we'll be listed by August now. Would love to chat with people who are in similar situations.

[mysterybks]

Well, we weren't selected for the boys. We know God has the right kid(s) picked out for us. Please pray for our caseworker to have God's guidance in the children she puts before us. And God's guidance for us in knowing which children to say yes to.

Thanks for all your prayers.

[mysterybks]

Well, we got called today about 2 different boys. They are 10 and 11 and are AA. They have some issues. We're going to talk to their cw tomorrow to get some more information. Luckily we don't have to rush a decision. Their staffing isn't until Sept. They wouldn't move in until January. Please keep us in your prayers as we decide.

[joskimo]

I know I"m horribly unaware, but why on earth does it take so long? And by the way, good luck to you!!!

[mysterybks]

Well, after talking to the boys' caseworker today, I found out that she would be willing to move them sooner if things go well. The staffing still won't be held until September as she needs to work on life books with the boys first. I would love to see them move in before the holidays if we decide to go for them and are selected. I'll let you know!

[joskimo]

I'm glad she's willing to consider sooner. September to January is just a silly amount of time. So did she give you any idea of the issues you'd be looking at?

[mysterybks]

Yes, the 11 yo boy has bedwetting issues and encopresis (I think that's how you spell it) issues. They are getting help for him on the encopresis so hopefully this will be resolved. The 2 boys also have a lot of rivalry. The older boy had to play parent a lot so we think that's where a lot of this comes from. Both boys are very sedientary (spelling?). We would work hard at getting them more active. They were neglected and thus they now have gone to overeating. None of it sounds undoable to us. We're just trusting God that if these are the boys for us, we'll be selected. LONG time to wait to find out, though! Hopefully things would progress so they could be here before the holidays.

Thanks!

[joskimo]

our boys had bed wetting for years, we tried everything, what did work is DDVAP (I might have my letters wrong), it wa a nasal thing worked like a charm. I recommended it to a friend who's son has the same prob and they prescribed it to them in pill form and they never had luck with it.

I wish you luck, keep me updated!

[sfbaymom2000]

mysterybks,

Were you selected for the boys? Have you met them? If so, how are things going?


joskimo,

Are you approved? I am going crazy waiting for our approval. I asked for a copy of our homestudy, so every day I check the mail box, and get a knot in my stomache when it is not there. I made the mistake of telling (or letting my daughter tell) alot of people that we are trying to adopt. So now, everyone I see is asking "Have you hear anything yet?" I am starting to say "Just that it might take a while". The waiting is awful!

Good luck to you both!

Lynn

[mysterybks]

Well, we didn't get the boys. But now we are considering a 12 1/2 year old caucasian girl. Meeting with her cw this week. Hoping to get more info. Then if we say yes (which I think we will), then I hope they set up her staffing soon. They said probably within a month. I am tired of all the waiting.

Our cw won't give us our home study. They're holding it hostage within their county only for 1 year.

Good luck! Keep us posted on yours.

Dawn

[sfbaymom2000]

Dawn,

Good luck with this child. My SW seemed surprised when I asked for the homestudy, and said she would send it but it couldn't be used anywhere else. I really want to ask if after 3, 6, or 12 months we can then use it outside our county, but don't want to seem too impatient. I wish I had asked that back at orientation!

How long has it been since you completed you homestudy? It sounds like you are very open as far as gender, age, race, and siblings...is that correct? I think that's great, and it certainly seems like that would help your chances of a match. We are somewhat limited by our daughter's age. Anway, best of luck to you with this possible match. What a difference you could make in this young girl's life!

Lynn