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This message was originally posted by toyjsu.

Pootie,
Please don't judge this board by the ignorance that you have read. This junk was brought here from another board only to spread turmoil and hate. This is not how the board usually is. It is funny that the people who have joined the site from the only board seemed to have done so only to post negative messages and not contribute anything positive. I was afraid that new people would read the recent posts and decide not to stay. It is obvious that it has caused frustration and annoyance with the majority of the board. I have noticed that posting is down. The board seems more quiet than usual. I expect all of this to die down soon so that we can get back to our more pleasant board.

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This message was originally posted by Susan Tackett.

I have only become a foster parent recently myself and found this board and the other board where so much controversy occurred over this issue and as a former foster child who was in the system in the State of Virginia I finally responded because I had had enough and unfortunately, my response was accidentally deleted and I accept the webmaster's explanation on the deletion:

I was put into state custody when I was 1 day old in the State of Virginia (I am now 37 years old) and was taken out of foster care when I was 1 year old - during that time my foster mother abused me - I was covered with sores, had burn marks on me - had to have intense physical therapy for months due to the fact that the foster mother (who was married by the way and had a bc herself) let my hip joints actually bind together and they could not bend my legs - I could not be put in a tub of water until I was over 2 years old because the foster mother had burned and scalded me - the records from the State of Virginia state "this child looks like she is from a third world country". I suffered for years from chronic bladder and urinary trach infections which the doctors attributed to the fact that I would hold my urine when I was child due to the fact that she would leave me for days in the same diapers - and from the saturation of the urine and feces I was one huge sore. The state did not disclose the abuse to my adoptive parents and told them that I "had a failure to thrive issue" - when I received from records from the State of Virginia and read at the age of 33 the abuse that occurred I threw up for hours and both my adoptive and birth mother cried for days. I found both my birthmom and bf 4 years ago. Ask me if I grew up with attachment issues?

I do not believe in homosexuality, it is not a choice of lifestyle which I have chosen - I have a beautiful 14 year old son and a wonderful husband - however, I was in the home of a married couple who abused me - I was one thing - a paycheck - my point is this - abuse happens anywhere - and my opinion as a former ABUSED foster child - what would my life had been like if someone, homosexual or not, have taken me into their home and loved me like I was suppose to be loved - would I have suffered all of the problems which I have endured in my life - I believe that in the end - that it is God's decision and judgment to make - I am just a speck in this huge universe and if I can make one child feel special and loved and make them realize what a gift they are to this world and make them realize that they are loved and worthy of love as my adoptive mother (and birth mother) continue to do - even though I brought heartache when I was growing up - than I have done well.

Have a blessed day.

Volfan

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This message was originally posted by ibpootie.

I have found a great (GREAT) website for gay and lesbian adoption and foster parenting! It's www.proudparenting.com. This site is just for alternative lifestyle families.
It keeps up on the latest news for anything having to do with gay fostering or adoption, reproduction, surrogacy, ect.! I hope it helps you and your family.

Thanks for the reply toyjsu. I am sorry that your message board has gotten so corrupted. I really want to be able to discuss issues that are important to me when it comes to adoption.

Thanks for the insight Susan. Very sad what has happened to you. Gay or straight, love is love. No matter how you identify yourself, if you have hate in your heart, you will become a monster.

Pootie