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This message was originally posted by toyjsu.

I must be a glutton for punishment. All week the prospect of ss calling with another placement has been on my mind. I can't explain why but I was sure they would call by today. They called about an hour ago. They have a 1 year old boy they need a place for. We are just getting use to life with a 3 year old and an eight month old. I said yes. We get him next week. We know that A will eventually go home but our next placement, D, will be with us for a while. My husband said ok but he wants to know the same thing I want to know, where am I going to put this kid? I don't care where. I am just happy to get him. His teenage mother is unhappy he is in a white foster home. Since we are one of the only black families in this area, they called us. For someone who lost their child due to neglect she shouldn't have any complaints. A is not black but we could care less. We couldn't love her more if she was genetically linked to us. At some point this world is going to have to grow up.

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This message was originally posted by hope4kids.

I know that feeling! Each time I get it, I get a call - even when the home is full and I shouldn't get one. The latest was driving by a long-term medical facility for disabled kids on my way to a children's play. I just had this feeling that I should stop in. That my next placement would come from there. That they could be there now. (I used to visit another child there, but she was supposed to be adopted and move.) Well, at the play I saw the kids from the center and the baby we had visited is still there! Now I am truly wondering what my role is to be in her life. In my heart I want to bring her home at last.

You will be busy, but I am sure your energy will grow right along with your family. Isn't it amazing how much space you can find with a bit of creativity?

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This message was originally posted by FSTRMom2B.

I'm so jealous! We are planning on taking up to 3 placements. It will be a big change from 1 child but I can't wait!-- FSTRMom2B

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This message was originally posted by mom22many.

We take 4 at a time and have 3 of our own and it is very busy!! You will find a place for them and you will find a way to make it work if you really want to badly enough!We take in young ones and have 3 under 2.5 right now-all sibs, as well as a 9 year old long term and my own are 10,12,14. Today we went for a post adoption placement visit with a little one who left us 2 months ago for her forever family. It was bitter sweet and very hard for me to see her and not run and scoop her up and love her as I used to-I actually did not touch her and i cried on the way home- i told myself and the kids that if she went to them fine but no going to her as i did not want to disturb her bonding. SHe went to my daughter -14 and asked to be picked up and put her head down on her shoulder--big tears from me!!!LOL She held my 10 year olds hand as they walked and she just kept looking at hubby and i but did not come right up to us so we just let her be. It is very hard to let go-now i am off topic as i am emotional and tired right now!! Oh I was going to add that we are white and have a Jaimaican boy have had Chinese and now have mslim in our family as well-and yes the parents are not always happy about it but we are coping!!!

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This message was originally posted by toyjsu.

Wow mom22many I don't know that I could have had the strength you had to not grab her. I don't have that kind of will power. I'm sure she just didn't know how to respond. Perhaps she is still a bit confused on the role of all the adults in her life and didn't want to offend her new parents. I am emotional for you.

I am still not sure where we are going to put him. He will have to sleep in the play pen until we get him a toddler bed. I don't want him wandering the house at night. I am worried about the changes this poor child has been through in such a short amount of time. I am worried about his ability to bond with us. He might arrive tomorrow. I hope so. I am anxious to meet him.

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This message was originally posted by mom22many.

I am sure you will manage with him and a playpen is better than him wandering the house! I have done that while waiting to set up a crib if they are not sure the baby will be staying. By the way i just got an email from the adoptive mom re my last post here and she says she thought the visit went well and that the baby has not slept well since-she wonders what she is thinking of after seeing us. She has been very nice about it all. I just want her to be happy!