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This message was originally posted by Micki.

I know patience is part of becoming a foster parent. We've been licensed for 2 weeks now and....nothing.

We have room for a child and an infant (our agency needs people who are willing to take infants). And every day I see empty beds!

I know I'm probably complaining early. I've heard others say they waited months.

It makes me frustrated to hear commercials on TV and radio say, there is a desperate need for good homes and mine is EMPTY.

I just hope there isn't a reason they're not putting children in our care.

I'm going to call them AGAIN!

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This message was originally posted by happy2003.

I know what you mean, I was told that I was on the waiting list , which was 2 months ago and then I was told by my sw wants to ask me more questions to complete the home study which I thought I had already done. and then the sw tells me to expect a call which was last week so I wait at home , no call, and now I'm told by the sw this morning that 15 more homes is in the same senerio i'm in. I was going to tell the sw to forget it but I started to think of the children who needs a home. So I'm really really disappointed right now. really really frustrated also

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This message was originally posted by toyjsu.

Slow down Micki. You sound like I did last month. Now I have a beautiful baby girl sleeping in the next room. Look at it this way. If your phone isn't ringing, maybe the parents in your area are behaving. Hopefully this means the little ones in your area are safe. The very morning I complained to my husband about not getting a call in an entire month, the phone rang a couple of hours later. Trust me, I know how hard it is to wait. I was just as anxious. I even found a child in our state and called to see if we could foster to adopt him. They will call.

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This message was originally posted by tinaw.

BE PATIENT.
It took 4 months for my first placement to arrive. Sometimes it has to do with what agency you are with. The agency I am with are not the first called when there is a severly injured or a baby that is born with drugs at the time of birth. There are some agencies that deal strictly with severe cases and because of the different levels that the foster parent needs to be trained ,it may just depend on what kids are coming through right now.
I have been a foster parent for two years now. I have had one child for a month and the second child has been with me for 18 months now and I am adopting him.
Hang on , a call will come.

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This message was originally posted by Micki.

Tina,

You waited 4 months for your FIRST placement? Wow.

I just hope that people like me and Happy2003 aren't waiting 4 months.

I know I could look on the bright side and say that all of the parents in our area are behaving. I live in a city with a population of over 330,000 people. So I'm not so sure that's the case.

I think Tina is right about what children come into care and who gets notified. Our agency just takes the pressure or overload off of the gov't agency so maybe that's why they don't have many children coming into care right now.

I DID phone my agency and they assured me that they are not keeping children from us.

So Happy2003, we just have to be patient. I know you've been being patient much longer than I have.

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This message was originally posted by happy2003.

ok, i'll be patient.

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This message was originally posted by BritaLyn.

So what made everyone decide to go with their particular agency? I am just going through the state....and I would be surprised if I had to wait for placements, but I guess you never know.

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This message was originally posted by kookeymom.

Micki/happy2003 don't feel bad I'm still waiting also. I have been waiting for a month. They keep calling me for respite. I want my own kids. The reason I decided to do this is to help the children. You read how hard it is to find people/families to be a FP and how many kids are in the system (were are they?). I'm license for theraputic FC. I'm getting really frustrated I thought I would had a child by now - age 6-12 girl. So I guess we need to stay patient and lift each other up in prayer. Let not give up for the children sake!

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This message was originally posted by Salem630.

It took 3 months for our first placement, and we are fostering thru the state. My best advice...forget about it. They say a watched pot never boils, same goes for a watched phone ... I am basically not a patient waiter, I want everything now, now, now, so it was hard for me to wait as well. After a month of jumping every time the phone rang, I told myself that if I hadn't heard anything in six months, I would start calling. Then I forgot about it and stopped waiting for the phone to ring. I did call my sw a couple of times just to say hi and let her know I was still waiting, but for the most part I put it out of my mind. The time seemed to pass more quickly and it was a pleasant surprise when we got the call. Now we are waiting....arghh... for the adoption process to begin.

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This message was originally posted by Micki.

Maybe if someone is waiting for an "adoptable" placement, it will take longer?

We're not adopting.


I'll be patient. It's only been 2 weeks. If I have to wait months, I'll make myself crazy!

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This message was originally posted by happy2003.

hi brita, I wish I had gone through the state, but I wonder if it would have made any difference, the agency i'm with receives payment and other services from the state. so I really don't know

Kookeymom: I'm surprised you havn't gotten any calls myself especially with the age range you've chosen. my husbands aunt got a call for a 14yr old girl with a baby. but she only took in boys so she told them no.
I'll be patient
I'll be praying for everyone

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This message was originally posted by steph.

I too was saying all that is being said, "why am I waiting if there are so many kids needing homes?" For those of you who are waiting, maybe the child that you are supposed to care for has not entered the system, or hasn't even been born yet...
I am not sure how it works through the agencies because I am with the state, but if there is a facilitator at the agency, call them! These are the people who actually do the calling to place the kids, not the sw. I called the facilitator for our county and come to find out the system had us listed as only wanting problem free children! After she corrected this to reflect what we were willing to accept, we got a call two days later.
Our son came to us straight from the hospital at eight d/o! The case is now going to adoption and this was our first placement!!!
Hang in, there is a PLAN...

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This message was originally posted by Micki.

Thank you all for your encouragement!

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This message was originally posted by steph.

Anytime! I wish I had found this site when I was in the process of being approved. I needed to talk with others in the same position. I will always believe that staying on top of things will help you tremedously! I know they thought "oh YOU AGAIN" but look where we are now!
Continue with your efforts...

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This message was originally posted by heypaula.

I remember being in your shoes...waiting for the phone to ring. My phone was in my hand at all times and I would not leave the house for fear they would call and I'd miss them. But, the call came and when I got those 2 little kids, they kept on calling with more and more. We've been licensed since March 8th and have had 6 kids come and go already. I could tell you to be patient, but I know how hard that is and it's not really what you want to hear right now, is it? You'll have your hands full before you know it. Hang in there.