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This message was originally posted by AmandaByNight.

I have a friend who is almost 16 years old. A year or so ago her mom told her she didnt want to take care of her anymore and sent her to live with her aunt and granted her aunt custody. Now her aunt is telling her they dont want her anymore either. Her aunt said her choices were going back to live with her mom or going to foster care. She doesnt want to go back with her mom after all that she already put her through. One of our friends parents told my friend that she could come live with them and that she would go through all the nessecary court procedures in order to keep my friend out of foster care and out of her moms custody. Since she is so old, can she decide where she wants to go? And what is the best way out of her situation. Shes been through so much being told shes not wanted anymore TWICE. If she lived with her mom, she would be unhappy and away from her friends. Her friends are what she really needs right now. Please help with some advice....

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This message was originally posted by hope4kids.

I don't really know the answers to your questions, but I have a few ideas. Could she talk to a counselor at school? Maybe she could call a law office and see if there is a group that takes on cases for free or gives free advice. Maybe her mom or aunt would be willing to sign guardianship over to your friend's parents? Let us know what happens. I will be praying for her.

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This message was originally posted by Mike.

Sixteen can be a difficult time for many children for many reasons. It's the whole crossroads to independence, dependent while trying to be independent.

I don't know the laws in your state but in NH it is perfectly OK for her to stay with a friend as long as the parents approve. In NH, 14 years olds can have a say in where they go, but it's not their final decision.

Where ever she goes, she needs to comply with the rules of that home and to participate in the maintenance of it (do chores).