[Lisaadopt]

My husband and I have had several foster children in our home over the past few years. We just adopted 4 siblings that were our foster children. They are the light of my life.... 1. 2,3, and 5. That is not the problem. Two of our previous foster children are back in care and will be adopted. The question is ....do we adopt them also. We have 4 young children now....but we love them too. We are so torn on what to do. I know I can't save the world but I do want to help them have the best life they can. They are older 7 and 8. so, I would have a 1, 2, 3, 5, 7, and 8 year old. I love them all so much. What do you think?

[lucyjoy]

How old were the older children when you fostered them? Are there behaviors safe for the yonger children to be around? Do you have the energy for two more children?

I love having a large family and if I could answer those questions
in a positive manner, I'd do it. Just my opionion.

[Lisaadopt]

It has been a year and a half since they left and I don't know what has happen in that time. When we had them they were good kids with good behavior and would not be a danger to my current children. I have a lot of energy....but I do work. I'm a teacher. I would continue working because that is my passion. We have visitation with the two foster children and are thinking about going to see them...but I don't want to hurt them in any way.

[lucyjoy]

Did you have them for a long period of time? If they were doing o'kay with you over an extened time period, even if they have new abuse issues, they probably will still be o'kay but will need therapy to deal with any new trauma. If your able to work with four little children, six shouldn't be that much different. I have nine, but I don't work except volunteer work that's flexable.
Be honest with your self and the kids. As you know, adoption is forever and quilt or feelings of obligation won't be enough for it to work. Maybe if you visit with them with the rest of the kids and watch how they interact, it will be easier for you to make a decision.