[lotsalilfeet]

Hi All,
I haven't been online in awhile because I've been very busy with my precious little man...and the rest of my family. My FS 10 mos. old has just thrived in our home. He was 3 or 4 mos. behind developmentally when we first got him, but now he is just a fire-cracker. We want to adopt him and are supposed to be going to court in July for TPR...now a 2nd cousin has been talked into filling out paperwork by the bio-mom. I am so nervous about all of it.
I am asking for prayer from all of you that God's will be done in our circumstance. If he is ours, then things will work out...if he is not, pray that I have Grace and strength to accept it and to carry on. We are also adopting our 15 year old FD and I don't want to become depressed and "let her down".

[mrsred]

You have done all you can. God hears your prayer - if he is meant to be yours, he will, and if not, since you have asked for grace, you will receive it.
By the way, just because a cousin has been asked to fill out paperwork does not mean that she will follow through, or that even if she does the state would deem her an acceptable placement. If you are the mother God has chosen for this little one, there is nothing here on earth that can stand in the way.

[sunsetsky]

I will say a prayer for you. I deeply understand what it feels like to be on this journey.

[wannafostersoon]

Prayers abound. I do agree, if God intends this little soul to be your forever son then he will be. God bless!

[Potrismom]

I hope you get your little guy! I know that there is a system in place for a reason but sometimes it just seems so unfair!!

[goodymom]

Hello. There is a new post on the website Infertility Podcast
The woman being interviewed has gone through the fost-adopt situation. Worth listening to.

[mamaboogerbear]

Hello Amy-

I just wanted to let you know that I feel your pain. We are currently going thru a similar situation. Our FS is now 8months old and has been with us since he was 3 months old. He came to us from another FH. We have bonded with him tremendously and he has fit right in with our family.

We were told in the beginning that we would be fostering him but that his goal was going to be changed to adoption and as his FPs, we would have first consideration when it came to adoption.

On the day of his review hearing, we found out that a family member had come forward and decided they would like to adopt him. There was NO contact between our boy and any family members other than his bio-mom. These people have never seen him. Because they are family, in PA they have first consideration.

My family is devastated and trying not to be. If this is what is meant to be, it will be. There is nothing that we can do to prevent it from happening. Nor am I wondering if we should.

It's hard, much harder than we could have ever imagined.

I will keep you and your family in my prayers and thoughts.

[lotsalilfeet]

We got the call last Wednesday that we were dreading. We had to turn our FS over to the cousin. We were devastated.
I've had lots of trouble with my stomach and nerves, but it's going to get better....I know it has to, because that's what everyone keeps telling me.
This has had to be one of the hardest things we have ever done. I said I would never do it again, but I am leaving now to go home and straighten my nursery and make plans for the extra room...and wait for my next mission. I'm glad that God is so much bigger than we are. Thanks for all your prayers.

[CaddoRose]

I can't imagine how this must be for you. I'm praying that you have the strength to make it through and that good things will happen for you.