Adopting a Toddler from the State - Page 3

Archive · #31 03-31-2002, 10:56 PM

Originally Posted By Nadine

Cheryl, it sounds like you have had amazing good luck! I'd like to adopt a sibling group or 2 or 3, infant, toddler or preschool age. I'd be willing to do foster care only if I could be reasonably sure that the baby wouldn't then be taken from me. Have you had that experience?

Archive · #32 05-20-2002, 06:41 AM

Originally Posted By rachel

Get John Rosemond's Making the Terrible Twos Terrific. You'll get what you need.

Archive · #33 05-26-2002, 02:24 AM

Originally Posted By Giselle

All I can say is that being a mother of 3 children I gave birth to...WELCOME TO MOTHERHOOD...but seriously, COunt to 10 before reacting to anything the child says or does and remember that he/she is your priority. I have lived in a big house with scribblings on the wall, stains on the carpet and holes in the walls. But this year I had my house tiled and painted and I am so glad that I took pictures of all the wall scribblings before the painters covered them with KILLZ.

Good Luck!!!!!

Archive · #34 06-25-2002, 04:09 PM

Originally Posted By jackie

This is normal. I have two biological sons and we hope to be adopting a little girl soon. Once your nerves get twisted its easy to forget how to calm down. Its easy to picture your self like june kleever, but when reality sets in, your only human!

Archive · #35 07-19-2002, 06:38 PM

Originally Posted By Wanda

HELP I'M CONFUSED!! My husband and I have been foster parents for 7 months now with the hopes of adopting an infant. At this point, we've barely even fostered any infants(two infants in seven months, one for only six days and our most recent only ten days) because we have been told there are rarely any infants to foster in our county. When I read that others have no problem getting infants, it breaks my heart. We just got an infant who was 7 weeks old and was told we'd be able to keep her for a while, possibly up to a year. We were in hopes of adopting her if the mother who is very young with many problems chose not to keep her, but then all of a sudden, the judge gave her back to the mom after we had her only ten days. Our hearts are broken and we so desire to adopt an infant. Where do we turn and what do we do for help? My email is chinupwilbur@yahoo.com

Archive · #36 08-04-2002, 10:29 AM

Originally Posted By L.B.

We were foster parents for two years, than we got two little ones, brother and sister. We fostered them for about 9 months, then we were told they would be coming up for adoption, oh how we wanted them. We loved them as out own. For you see we have been married for 23 years now and never been able to have one of our own. We started adoption papers and everything was going fine, then the social workers decided because my husbands Dad was a alcohlic that he was one too, because he drank beer. My husband loved these kids we spoiled them bad at Christmas and everyother day of the year it was so much fun. For two months they put us through Hell. They wanted my husband to go to AA 5 days a week, take the pill that makes you sick if you drink, and about 5 five other things. The last time we met with them they added something else on, I had enough and stood up and left. After I left they ask my Husband if it would be ok if the new foster parents could come over and get to know the kids, My husband said if they are leaving they ar going today. You see my Husband would of done anything for the kids but I could not make him do all of those things, that was not right. It is still very hard to talk about this after 12 years, but I still don't think it was right. Ayear later the state wrote and sent us a picture of the kids and their new adoptive family. Talk about salt in the wounds. Sorry a rumbled on for so long just had to get this off my chest.

Archive · #37 08-04-2002, 10:29 AM

Originally Posted By L.B.

We were foster parents for two years, than we got two little ones, brother and sister. We fostered them for about 9 months, then we were told they would be coming up for adoption, oh how we wanted them. We loved them as out own. For you see we have been married for 23 years now and never been able to have one of our own. We started adoption papers and everything was going fine, then the social workers decided because my husbands Dad was a alcohlic that he was one too, because he drank beer. My husband loved these kids we spoiled them bad at Christmas and everyother day of the year it was so much fun. For two months they put us through Hell. They wanted my husband to go to AA 5 days a week, take the pill that makes you sick if you drink, and about 5 five other things. The last time we met with them they added something else on, I had enough and stood up and left. After I left they ask my Husband if it would be ok if the new foster parents could come over and get to know the kids, My husband said if they are leaving they ar going today. You see my Husband would of done anything for the kids but I could not make him do all of those things, that was not right. It is still very hard to talk about this after 12 years, but I still don't think it was right. Ayear later the state wrote and sent us a picture of the kids and their new adoptive family. Talk about salt in the wounds. Sorry a rumbled on for so long just had to get this off my chest.

Archive · #38 08-08-2002, 12:30 PM

Originally Posted By Joyce

I understand, I have a five year old foster child whom I am adopting (and hoping to get her two siblings) but I find myself falling into dysfunctional ways of responding to her tantrums. I keep reminding myself that I'm not perfect. As time goes on I get better. I read things on discipline and get help from her counselor. Giving myself healthy time off is great too. Hang in there! Time will help.

Archive · #39 08-11-2002, 04:54 AM

Originally Posted By EQuick

This is called terrible two's which can last until he is about four, all parents go through it. My son is nine now he thinks he knows it everything and his 36 yr old parents don't have a clue, so enjoy your baby while he still is a baby.

Archive · #40 08-11-2002, 04:56 AM

Originally Posted By EQuick

This is called terrible two's which can last until he is about four, all parents go through it. My son is nine now he thinks he knows it everything and his 36 yr old parents don't have a clue, so enjoy your baby while he still is a baby.

Archive · #41 09-01-2002, 04:25 PM