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10-07-2009, 10:26 AM
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New info. about my "match"
well I talked to my cw yesterday on and off. We were waiting to hear from the girl's sw in order to schedule the disclosure meeting.
It so happened that my cw found out sw quit her job and didn't really let that many people know so my cw just found that out yesterday. Then as she was looking over the case file, it appears that just recently an ICPC request was done from maternal relatives living in Mexico. Um so my cw is researching this and is giving herself a week to find out what will be happening. If it's not resolved or if it looks like it will be a long process of sorting out, she will be looking for another match for me. So I'm a little bummed today....I feel bipolar as one day I was flying high and another I'm crashed...however, If you read this, please pray/send positive thoughts that if this is a legitimate request from relatives that it is a sincere attempt to regain this child and not merely a stall tactic on mom's behalf which could leave this child in foster care longer if this family cannot or doesn't have the sincere motive to fight for this child. my cw thinks this development is very sketchy and they like to pair their adoptive homes with low risk placements as my county doesn't have legally free children as other states do. My county has a good feel for what will go through and what won't so I know this information is coming from experienced people that know what cases are sketchy and which ones arent. Not to say that there isn't any risk with any child, but I'm glad my cw is adovocating hard for all. My heart goes out to this child...I sincerely hope she finds a forever home... But still I couldn't help crying a little last night 
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Speech therapist to 39 children  6/1/09, homestudy officially approved 6/3/09, Selected!  ....decided not to move fwd. after disclosure meeting  9/29/09, Selected!  10/6, appears relatives applied for ICPC  12/4, called about a 4 1/2 mo old baby girl 12/15, Baby Girl L placed I LOVE MY BABY GIRL 
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#2
10-07-2009, 10:42 AM
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I'm so sorry! I've been reading your posts and waiting for your response on when it would be moving forward. It's so hard what we go through! Stay strong, this one might end up working out.
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03/06 - Approved Foster/Adopt Parent in CA 03/06-02/08 - 5 kids placed with us (E, O, S, H, J) 03/06/02/08 - 4 Respites (R, F, D, R) 02/08 - Moved to TX 08/08 - H adoption final  08/08 - Approved Foster/Adopt Parent in TX 08/08-5/09 - 3 short term fosters during this time (A, P, M) 03/23/09 - FS P - 3 days old 11/02/09 - FD A - 7yrs old - Hoping she stays forever! Still waiting for another forever child or two...
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10-07-2009, 11:14 AM
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I am sending good thoughts. I also went through something similar when we were waiting and now that I have my current fd, I know she was meant to be here and that the other little girl went where she needed to be. Waiting is hard but sometimes, later, you realize you ended up with the right placement for you. Just hang in there and get as much rest as possible
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10-07-2009, 11:22 AM
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I know this is true. As a praying woman myself, I'm always praying that if a child is meant to be, that things will resolve themselves and things would move along (abeit it doesn't have to be quickly....just moving)...not that I take EVERYTHING as a sign, because I don't believe in simply giving up over any bump in the road, but if this is meant to be, this new information will resolve somehow and come to light, and if not, I'm happy I know about it now instead of later. I just really really hope that if a relative is asking for her, that it is a sincere fight and that this girl gets a good home.
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Speech therapist to 39 children 6/1/09, homestudy officially approved 6/3/09, Selected! ....decided not to move fwd. after disclosure meeting 9/29/09, Selected! 10/6, appears relatives applied for ICPC 12/4, called about a 4 1/2 mo old baby girl 12/15, Baby Girl L placed I LOVE MY BABY GIRL
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10-07-2009, 11:32 AM
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Sorry to hear about this latest development. I too have been following your post. I am a single woman in Houston hoping to adopt through the state. I really hope the child land somewhere safe.
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10-07-2009, 11:40 AM
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Thoughts and prayers your way!
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Foster/Adopt classes began January 14, 2008 Classes completed February 28th, 2008 Licensed to Foster/adopt September 9th, 2008 Soon to be AD placed 07/10/09 adoption to be 01/10 FD- M 6 yo placed 10/02/09  FD- H 6 yo placed 02/20/09 united with aunt 07/10/09FD- J 2 yo placed 02/20/09  united with aunt 07/10/09FD- Big K 9 yo placed 10/07/08 To be reunited with parent 02/27/09  FD- Lil' K 7 yo placed 10/07/08 To be reunited with parent 02/27/09
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10-07-2009, 01:14 PM
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I've been watching for your post eager to find the news, sorry that it's not good yet. Who knows about the family - it's such an unknown. Witht he little guy we're matched with, there is an aunt and the state was working towads matching but she didn't really want it, she felt pressured. When she finially told them, they were able to move to the photolisting. You just don't know. So keep the faith, my thoughts are definitely with you.
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~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~ Happy mom to 2 daughters, one by birth the other by adoption Adoption journey: homestudy completed 7/04, signed with facilitator 11/04, matched 12/04, daughter born 2/05, adoption final 4/05 Fost/Adopt journey: legal risk, preadoptive placement of V 10/08, state went to reuniting 1/09, V back w/family 7/09. 9/09 preadoptive placement from photolisting with boy T 7 y.o., placement 11/09
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10-07-2009, 05:47 PM
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How would they even go about doing and ICPC to Mexico. If the child is a US citizen how can they place her in Mexico?
Becca
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"Life is a promise. Fulfill it."... Mother Theresa
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10-08-2009, 07:10 PM
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I'm sending thoughts and prayers your way. She finds a forever home. I also hope you find your forever child!
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Mr. Cris, married to a wonderful woman. 10/20/08- Orientation about Foster care and Adoption 11/1/08- Started MAPP Classes 1/31/09- Received MAPP Certificate of completion 3/17/09- Received background check clearance 5/27/09-Home study officially approved 6/29/09- Home Officially opened and on "THE LIST" 8/13/09- Received license in the mail 11/13/09-  rang regarding a 2 month old  and 2 year old as possible matches11/16/09- Paternal Family filed papers for custody of 2 year old :sad:11/17/09- Informed 2 month old actually a  and judge wants her placed in Pre-adoptive home ASAP 11/23/09- Told Foster Mom wants to try keep 2 month old. Waiting for Law guardian decision Patiently waiting to hear more 
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10-09-2009, 03:01 AM
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Not sure but wouldn't it work like an international adoption where you bring a child to the US? I'd be interested in knowing how that works too.
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Mom to 2 girls-age 10 and 15  1st MAPP class: 9/9/2006 MAPP class completed: 9/30/2006 Home study completed: 11/2006 Home study submitted for approval: 11/14/2006 Foster License approved! 11/22/2006  Flew to visit Niece for 3 wks 3/2007  Judge rules placement with us 5/2007 Leaving to bring Niece home 6/15/2007 Niece is offically part of our family 6/30/2007 TPR Bio Dad by default 8/9/2007 TPR Bio Mom voluntary surrender 8/9/2007 Adoption subsidy agreement approved and signed 05/2008 Adoption finalization date 7/18/2008! YEAH
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10-09-2009, 06:40 AM
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I'm sorry, DannieAS. Cry as often as you need to.
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