[momofbgtwins]

We adopted twins last year. We picked them up from the hospital when they were 11 days old. Bio mom wanted nothing to do with them. She did not even look at them when she had them. Bio-grandma came to the hospital(not sure if she saw the twins). Bio-mom told her mom she did not want anyone in the family to take them. We have some of the bio-grandma's information, address and phone number. We are really thinking about contacting them(bio-grandparents). We have no medical history on the twins. If you were in my situation would you want to have a relationship with the bio-GP or should we just let things go. A part of me says that if I do not make contact soon they could move, die, etc and I would never have that chance again. And the other part of me says lets leave things as they are. I also know there is a chance they will not want to see the twins also.

I know this is a decision my husband and I need to make, but I really love all of your advice.

[athikers]

I would make contact. You are in control here, if you don't want more than letter writing, say that. If you might want visits, say that. Etc. I think that its important for all our children to have connections to their biofamilies when the family is appropriate and it will be a positive experience.

[MassachusettsMom]

Someday your twins will ask questions about their bio-family, and it would be great if you had some information for them. Can you get in contact with the bio-grandparents through your agency?

[Withay]

If you are uncomfortable making the contact you might want to ask the agency to do it.