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Old 10-31-2008, 06:51 PM
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We are headed down to meet our son in TWO WEEKS!!!! Of course, we can't bring him home yet, but it will just be great to be there and see him
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Old 11-01-2008, 02:12 PM
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Congratulations athikers! I'm sure you are so excited and can't wait!! Have they discussed a visit/placement schedule yet? WONDERFUL NEWS!!
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Old 11-02-2008, 03:37 AM
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I wanted to add my congratulations to everyone who has been recently matched.

We're foster adopt licensed through our county this past February. We've sent out our homestudy a ton of times and haven't heard anything back except the very first week we were licensed but that sibling group needed more than we thought we could handle.

The first week of June we got our first non-respite foster placement. She's still with us and a permanent custody hearing is scheduled for Nov 19th. She just turned 2 this month. We were asked shortly after placement if we wanted to adopt and it's a definite yes. There are still a few distant out of state relatives from a list that dad gave that need to be contacted so it's not definite even if permanent custody is approved but adoption is starting to seem more likely.

There have been some posters who said they were working with an agency would you be willing to email me the agency details and states they work with even though we're with the county and it's worked so far I'd love to have more information.

Again congratulations to all the matches. It's so good that these kids will have a permanent home this year.
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Old 11-03-2008, 10:31 AM
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Thanks Perfect7 we are counting down the days. Have you had any more news yet about the little boy?

R spent the weekend with us and it was great. She had a few moments of defiance (shopping for clothes for a wedding next weekend) but I was gently firm with her and she responded very well. I'm thinking of taking my son out of school on Friday before we go pick her up for good so we can have a "last day" together.

I have another thing I could use some help on. R is asking if she can keep her last name. I feel very strongly about her taking our last name, mainly because I don't want her bio-family to be able to find her. Her older sister still has contact with her and she is in contact with bio family and it really makes me nervous. Bio Dad is a real bad guy with such convictions as assualt with a deadly weapon on a really long rap sheet. Do you think I could insist with her that it's not an option? I dont want her to resent it but I think its better for her and our family if she does change it. BTW her name is unmatchable, it would be so easy to know its her if they find it.
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Old 11-03-2008, 10:40 AM
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Thats a big concern for us as well. We will be changing our little boys name. We are making his first name his middle name & giving him a new first name. I think the same thing, with networking sites & such its very obvious its him & your daughters family can find her fast. But from what you said I would wait a few months. Maybe when she settles in a bit more she will FEEL more like the family & will be more open to changing it. I would let it go for a few months & bring it up closer to the finalization. But you said she talks to her sister who talks to bio dad. So, her older sister would know her new name, even after she changes it because I'm sure she is going to tell her sister he new name. Her sister can always tell her dad. If you still feel strongly about it later, & she won't budge, I would insist for her own safety & security. Something so little, as a school newsletter or website printing her name, for a contest or something & they google & find her. Maybe if you drop it for awhile & respect her decision, she will change her mind. But I would think if you push it now she is going to stand firm & refuse, if she thinks its her decision she might make the right one! But thats just my opinion!
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Old 11-03-2008, 10:46 AM
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How about doing like many women do when they get married? Just move her last name to middle and then give her your last name. Make sure she uses just the initial for her middle name whenever possible so the old last name doesn't get out.

I would also just wait a while before discussing it again. Give her some time to settle in.

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Old 11-03-2008, 10:52 AM
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We've thought about that but they are asking us to sign name papers at the placement. I will talk to her again this weekend before the placement on Monday and see how she feels. If she were younger like your little boy it would be easier but she's 10 and being in foster care she's way more mature in the way things work than most kids. Her first name is Reign and I love her name and don't really want to change it. As far as her sister telling bio dad we are insisting on email contact only because sister is still talking to bio parents even though she is in fostercare also. She's 16 so harder to control. Sadly after finalization we're expecting that we will stop communication for R's safety. Her sister is in pretty bad shape and wants them all to be with bio parents again. Not a healthy relationship. Luckily R is tired of the drama and really wants a new family and to be a 10 yr old. Its all so sad.

Mommy have you heard anything about a phone call yet? I'm so excited for you!!! I hope you don't have the freaking out that I did. I had another panic attack this weekend and have realized it's not her its the situation and how overwhelming it all is, I know once things get going it will all come together.

Wohiomom I hope you get your little one in the end, I'll keep my fingers crossed for you!
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Old 11-03-2008, 11:29 AM
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Nope, we haven't heard anything. I am just trying to be patient. Working alot to get things wrapped up before I go on leave. Hopefully we do the call this week, So we can go ahead & schedule visits & placement. But we found out the subsidy paperwork needs to be completed before we bring him home. Otherwise he won't get it. So theres a chance we may end up waiting on THAT! I sent it off the day we read his file. So I hope that means it will be completed within a week or so. Im just waiting, maybe if we have our visits scheduleded they can hurry it up a bit. I am a bit nervous but I think what you went thru is nervous. Its so different because this time your child can judge YOU too. Infants don't really do that. But Im really nervous because of course I hope he loves us & we do the right things for him. I am preparing myself for a hard transition & the fact that he is very attached to his foster mother. If it turns out NOT to be that way, all the better.
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Old 11-03-2008, 11:42 AM
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Jenkay, I always use the "we'll see" approach. Ha ha! It's too bad they have to have the papers now for naming. Would they make exceptions, even for a month or so? Mommy2H1, I know you are getting so excited! Are you having a baby shower, buying lots of baby stuff yet? We got pics of our little guy Friday, and he's such a doll with Scandenavian features (from Russia). They are still completing his adoption presentation packet, expected to be this week. Hopefully soon! I'm so scared of another disappointment but staying hopeful. From what we know so far, he would be great and is the same age as my ds (not breaking birth order). Wait, wait, wait. Ha ha!
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Old 11-03-2008, 11:48 AM
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We had a baby shower last weekend. We had it really quick because we didn't know how fast we would be doing visits & we didn't want to run the chance of having to put off visits because we had planned a baby shower. We've been buying alot. We pretty much have everything, we do need more toys & clothes. We don't know what size he is, I know how big he was at 18M, & based on that he is right between a 2t & a 3t, depending on how much he has grown. So we are waiting for the call to ask what size he needs. But I'm proud of myself, I haven't been going completly crazy nuts. We do have a picture thank goodness. I can't imagine having gone this long without anything, like I know some people have. I have the original picture sent out with the broadcast back in may. But he was 18m then. We are still keeping our fingers crossed for Thanksgiving!
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Old 11-03-2008, 01:12 PM
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That's so exciting! I'll bet you are just thrilled!! If he isn't ready to be "placed" by Thanksgiving, maybe they can let him "visit" until he's placed. Keeping my fingers crossed for your little one to eat turkey with the family!
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Old 11-04-2008, 09:29 AM
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New drama this morning. R's sister called her last night and they talked without supervision. FM called me and told me about it and said she heard another girl say that R and her sister were going to have a visit this week. She hasnt seen her sister in 5 months and her sister is very against the placement. Also, R now knows where we live and our last name so I now don't know what info her sister now has. All phone calls and visits were supposed to be monitored! We are supposed to get R on Friday and she will have this drama before we come. I cannot stand CPS! This was my biggest fear and its starting before we even get her home where we can protect her and our family. I think this is where my panic attacks have been coming from I'm scared of the things i cant control. I mean how many of us are used to having convicted felons possibly wanting to come to your home to take your child? I'm probably over reacting but well that's how I am...lol
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Old 11-04-2008, 10:11 AM
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WOW, so thats nuts. You are right to be afraid! At this point there isn't much you can do! Its a horrible situation. So the name change thing is kinda pointless! I sure hope that the foster mom understands that a 10 year old shouldn't be allowed to use the phone without supervision, & her safety was jeopardized. I would want to cut off contact after that until she was in your home, that way you can be sure of her security.
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We called CPS and most likely we wont be able to do anything about it if they decide to do a visit. If we do visits when we get her we will be sitting right there with them! However for 6 months we really dont have the final say so on what happens CPS or the judge does. This will be a touchy subject for a while. Bevin tells us that it is normal for them to have a goodbye visit before she moves but these are special circumstances. What I'm afraid of is that the visit isnt scheduled by CPS but that the sister plans to see her without anyone knowing! We are waiting to see what they say but my dh isnt the type to just let things happen to us he will step in and I hope be able to stop this. I thought they were supposed to protect her!

Any news M2NH1??
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August 07 - 4yr old K - Failed match K was severe and we were told mild. Level of care beyond our capabilities-she was never placed in our home.

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Old 11-04-2008, 10:57 AM
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Nope, no news! Still waiting on the phone call. I was hoping we can do visits the weekend before Thanksgiving & into the week of the 24th, that way my nephew doesn't miss any school. But again thats hopefull thinking! I would hope that your daughters foster mom is watching her 24 hours a day & there is no way for her to meet her sister without her knowing! But stranger things have happened.
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