[JeannineW]

buttascotchbaby, Good luck with the little boy.

I sent off an inquiry two days ago about a sibling group and I can't stop thinking about them. It is so hard waiting and wondering. I always swing between thinking surely no one else wants xxx (usually a sibling group) to thinking EVERYONE wants them and we will never get the kids we are looking for. I always hear that sibling groups are hard to place but it seems that all the ones that I have been interested in get placed very quickly after I make an inquiry. Maybe I should just inquire about every kid on the web and then they'd all get homes quickly! LOL

I think it is especially hard waiting when the match is a "stretch" from what we are hoping for. In this case, three little kids (ages and sexes are what we are hoping for) and an older teenage sister. I don't know how much energy I need to spend searching my soul about accepting a teenager. My initial thoughts are that it might just work. We have already raised two daughters and miss having a "big" girl at home. It doesn't seems like it upsets birth order... How much do I ponder all this?

Of course, it's also hard when the match seems perfect. ::: sigh ::: Waiting....

[Yash]

Buttascotchbaby,

I'm sending up prayers and got my fingers crossed for you.

[rraiford]

We introduced our son Q to his new little brother yesterday. The visit went really well. The boys played well together and the little guy was very comfortable around us all. We also got a great photo of the little brother swiping his big brother's pretzels! We do not know how long the transition will take, but we are very excited and nervous.

[Yash]

rraiford,

I'm glad the visit went well. I hope the transition continues to go well.

[shortyjlg]

We're working on our home study and in our next visit w/the SW, we're going to discuss what we're looking for in a child to adopt. We're leaning twards 0-5 yrs, either sex, but mild on the mental/physical issues. Now I've read some horror stories online about SW's "lying" in the childs files so that they can get them adopted. This scares me because from what we're told, you basically just read the file and then commit to the child before you meet him/her. What happens if you've started the visitations and you realize that the child just is not what you had in mind? Can you un-commit?

[bettynme]

In NJ, you can disrupt at any time prior to finalization. The min waiting period is 6 months.

[HappyHopefulMommy]

Well, we have been matched!! Kind of a long story but the day before we left on vacation we heard about a sib set. We came on vacation and 5 days later (while we were driving through Yellowstone) our worker called us. It was not for that sib set but a totally different one that she never told us about. The worker picked us, we are so excited about it. The kids are boy (almost 7), girl (5) and girl (almost 4). We will have 4 kids exactly 18 months apart each. We are going to disclosure on the 2nd, 2 days after we get home vacation. We are so glad we are on vacation to pass time, but we are constantly thinking about all we need to do. They want to do a quick transition to get them in our home before school starts. I will keep you all posted.

[MamaKnkids]

We got turned down for the girls we did inquiries on... BUT I did an inquiry on another girl yesterday and got a call today, and after talking with the worker she said that there are actually FOUR different girls that might be good matches for our family.. so Tuesday of next week she is going to pull our home study and speak with the treatment workers of all FOUR to see which one might be the best one...

This one in particular that she told me about is 16 and sounds WONDERFUL... I'm getting excited again!

Now we wait.

[wtacey01]

Uggghhhh!

I hate waiting. We've been approved for 2 months to adopt. Our matching specialist came out to our house 2 weeks ago. And we're requested information on 1 child whom she heard of through another worker.
I know it will happen, and when it does it will be wham-bam quick. All of our workers are so happy to have us on board and have assured us that we will soon have more requests and we're going to be turning them down left and right. That the workers are focusing on the children already matched, trying to get them home before school starts.

I've totally been nesting, in the past 2 weeks I've painted the bathroom, and both front and back porches. Tore up the front flowerbed and re-landscaped it. Emptied and donated the closets.

We are pretty open to ages (0 - 10) up to 2 (if siblings) boys (which is fine since girls get adopted quicker here). We have the room set up pretty boy generic (depending on age) with light (not baby ) blue walls with a dark blue ceiling with glow-in the dark stars, a dark wood bunkbed with dark blue cloudy/starry sky sheets. OK they'll probably hate it but it is pretty generic so it'll be easy to change.

Sorry to ramble on. Need to get it out of my system.

Stacey

[Yash]

Noelle, congrats! Enjoy your babies!

MamaKNKids, 4 girls? When it rains it pours. I'm hoping the daughter that is right for you and your family becomes apparent quickly!

Stacey, when you least expect it the call will come. Just as I was putting my baby shower gifts in the garage, I got the call for my son. So back out to the garage I went to bring the gifts back inside.

[Yash]

I was just told that Rowan's adoption will be pushed by 6 - 8 weeks because of a mistake. On the positive side, thank goodness her CW caught the mistake now. And it looks like we'll be adopting during National Adoption Month.

But on the cynical side, how is it that the CW just noticed a mistake in the minutes from a May 28th court hearing in July?

[Jenkay]

Congrats Noelle!!! You knew going on vacation would do it!!

We are still waiting for R's caseworker to send our agency her file so we can read it then proceed! Waiting has become the enemy around my house!! I have been doing the same thing as Stacey and cleaning every cabinet and closet in the house. It has now been going on 6 weeks since we got the news and i'm going nuts!

MomaK i cant wait to hear what happens with all those girls, something has to come from it! Good Luck!

Shorty i was scared about the process too but we read a file on a child about a year ago and ended up not accepting the placement cause she wasnt at all what they said, i think the case file will really give you a good insight. You can also talk to the fosterparents and the child's therapist before accepting the placement and begining visitation. Hope this helps!

Good luck to everyone still waiting...i'm off to wait some more for this darn file!! ugh!

[HappyHopefulMommy]

Well - things are not going as smooth as we had hoped. We got an email last week saying the worker for the kids decided to interview us and another couple. So, we go in two days, but I have no idea about the other family or when we will know for sure if we get them. It is so frustrating. We were told they were ours. But - oh well. We just got home from vacation today and are actually excited to be home, 17 days away was too long. I will keep you posted.

[MamaKnkids]

Noelle,
Sorry about the waiting and hoping you are "it". One of the girls we initially did an inquiry on, we were one of 4 families being considered. We were told we were not in the running, then last week we got a call that we ARE still being considered. It is so hard feeling like you just might not be good enough, you know? Sometimes I think the rollercoaster emotions of all of this is almost worse than pregnancy hormones!!

After that SW got me all excited about those 4 different girls she never pulled our home study and has not returned my phone calls... Ugh! Our worker hasn't even heard from her. Oh well.

We're going to another adoption event August 2, so we'll see what happens.

[HappyHopefulMommy]

Thanks mamaknkids - It is such a roller coaster ride. Since I have been pregnant, I can actually say this is WAY harder than pregnancy was for me. But maybe if this roller coaster had only been 9 months I would have thought differently. I am sorry you never heard from that worker. That is so frustrating. I hate getting my hopes up and then being let down. We have had so much hurt and loss that I don't even really get excited any more. Well, for these 3 I actually was, because we were told we were THE ones. But as soon as I found out about the other family I distanced myself. I know someday it will work our for all of us.